There's a reason why they call it the “dating game.”
When you're single and out meeting people or on a date with someone you don't know all that well, games get played. The other person shows you what he or she thinks you want to see. You do the same thing. You both omit certain facts about yourselves and you might even exaggerate or flat out lie about other aspects of who you are and what you do.
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It can be confusing if you spend more and more time together and you both start to learn things about one another that were previously hidden or changed.
While it's not necessary-- and not advisable-- to introduce yourself to someone and then follow that up with a laundry list of all of your bad habits and troubles (past and present), it's important for you to be the REAL you.
Here's the problem with pretending you're something that you're not...
If all goes well and you and this other person you're attracted to go on more dates and a relationship develops, you're going to be in big trouble! At some point, the truth about who you are, what you do and what your past was will come out.
This might not happen right away, but it will inevitably happen.
It requires a huge amount of energy to pretend or force yourself to be one way when you're actually not that. This will take a toll too. You will be unable to genuinely be with the other person. You will never be happy because it's not you who's in this budding relationship... it's a facade.
You might find out that the other person doesn't actually like the facade all that much and it becomes apparent that he or she would be more attracted to who you really are.
It's understandable that you might feel compelled to hide or change who you are. It can be tough to get noticed and by the kind of people you want to get noticed by.
You might be under the impression that you would not be able to attract your perfect partner if you let particular things about you be known or to show. It makes sense that you'd want to put forth a certain impression.
Unfortunately, many people believe that they have to pretend about themselves because who they REALLY are is unappealing, unattractive and a turn off. This is where low self esteem and insecurity come in and form roadblocks to love.
Catch yourself when you pretend or hide.
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As with anything, being aware of what you do is essential. Pay attention to how you act and what you say and do when you're on a date or meeting new people.
When you are tempted to hold back or lie, how does it feel in your body? Is there a catch in your throat or tension in your stomach. These physical cues are valuable in helping you stop yourself when you start down that usual road.