3 Ways To Open The Door To A New Relationship

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Love, Self

Are pain and hurt from past relationships standing in your way?

Gun shy...Jaded...Cynical...Damaged goods...Burned too many times...Afraid to stick even a toe in the water?

These words might feel apropos to where you are right now. Maybe you dream of finding the perfect partner for you but are terrified of getting hurt again. Perhaps you've given up your hope of being in love because what you want seems literally impossible.  Love can feel so good and it can also hurt so bad.

If you're considering dating again after a past breakup or divorce, then you may be moving hesitantly and cautiously. When you meet new people or you go on a date, perhaps you hold back and don't let yourself get too open or connect too deeply with the other person.

There's nothing wrong with being smart about dating and relationships. We certainly do not advise anyone to ignore the lessons of the past. Even in a painful betrayal, there are valuable lessons to be learned.

But, if you think your lesson is something like.... “I can't trust anybody” or.... “Cheating is unavoidable,” this is bound to stand in the way of you attracting the kind of partner you're looking for. These aren't lessons actually, they're beliefs that are rooted in lingering hurt.

It's not going to benefit you or the relationship you might be on the verge of if you carry beliefs like these with you. Trust and connection are essential to a fulfilling, close and healthy relationship. These are nearly impossible to develop when you continually put up walls and hold back so that you don't get hurt again.

Make completions with the past.

One powerful way to open yourself up to the kind of love you've dreamed of is to come to a potential or new relationship with as little baggage as you possibly can.

You're going to bring preconceived notions to a date and relationship. It happens. The trick is to acknowledge your preconceived notions and do your best to greet this new person as a new person...and not just a variation of your ex.

Make completions so that you can minimize your baggage and really get to know your date for who he or she is.

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