Looking for Love‭? ‬Erase THIS from Your Vocabulary‭

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Looking for Love‭? ‬Erase THIS from Your Vocabulary‭
Change your talk and open the door to a great love relationship‭!

Find out what’s possible.‭
Maybe erasing the words‭ “‬this means that‭” ‬from your vocabulary doesn’t feel realistic.‭ ‬After all,‭ ‬it’s kind of like asking someone to pretend that there’s not a Pink flamingo sitting in the living room.‭ ‬There's no denying your very vivid and real fears...even if there isn't proof that those fears are accurate now or that they'll happen in the future.‭

9‎ ‏times out of‭ ‬10,‭ ‬you can't know what will happen in the future.‭ ‬Why not base your decision about how to respond to a worrisome situation on the facts that you can know‭? ‬Calm your fears by remembering that what you can't know and what you do know.‭

‬This will help you see what's actually possible.

Before you conclude that the guy across the room isn't interested in you,‭ ‬find out more.‭ ‬Work up the courage to walk up to him and say‭ “‬hello.‭” ‬Ask him to dance with you.‭ ‬Explore what's possible by taking a risk.‭

With the date you've not heard from in a couple of days,‭ ‬make a call or send one more text to him.‭ ‬Don't play games,‭ ‬but let him know how much you enjoyed going out and that you'd like to do it again.‭ ‬Be clear and say that you're available this weekend but will make other plans if you don't hear from him.‭

This isn't meant to be manipulation,‭ ‬it's merely communicating that you aren't going to continue to incessantly text him and you won't be sitting around waiting either.‭

If he says,‭ “‬no‭” ‬or refuses to respond,‭ ‬you can rebound more quickly if you re-focus on other options.‭ ‬Don't use this temporary set back to return‭ “‬this means that‭” ‬to your vocabulary.‭

Instead,‭ ‬ask yourself a question like,‭ “‬What else would be fun this weekend‭?” ‬or‭ “‬Who would I enjoy spending time with since he is not available‭ (‬or answering my texts‭)?”  ‬The more options you present to yourself,‭ ‬the better chance that you'll be happy and the quicker you'll meet‭  ‬someone who is a match for you.‭

Finding love isn't brain surgery‭! ‬As you erase limiting thoughts and keep yourself open,‭ ‬the right partner will come into your life easily and even effortlessly.‭ ‬Automatic Attraction Secrets shows you how.‭ ‬Visit‭ ‬www.AutomaticAttractionSecrets.com to get started today.

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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