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Looking for Love‭? ‬Erase THIS from Your Vocabulary‭

Looking for Love‭? ‬Erase THIS from Your Vocabulary‭
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Change your talk and open the door to a great love relationship‭!

Who knew‭?

Three little words can be a major reason why you’ve been unable to attract the amazing love relationship you’re longing for.‭ ‬Three little words that you might not even be fully aware of but that are a recurring part of your self-talk and your conversations with others could be the reason why you're still single.‭

By themselves,‭ ‬these aren’t offensive or inflammatory words,‭ ‬but their effect can keep you stuck in a miserable place.‭ ‬As they creep into your everyday life,‭ ‬they cause you to shut down to new people you meet and to those you've known for awhile.‭ ‬These words prevent you from being at your best and finding the love you’ve been looking for.‭

These troublemakers are...

‏“This means that...‎”

How many times have you been at a party or any kind of social gathering and felt confused or unsettled‭? ‬A guy who you thought might be interested,‭ ‬hasn’t made eye contact with you all night‭! ‬Your mind instantly lands on,‭ “‬So this means that he’s not attracted to me.‭” ‬And then,‭ “‬This means that I’ll never find a date.‭”  ‬And further,‭ “‬This means that I’ll always be alone.‭”

You can set off a dangerous downward spiral when you allow‭ “‬this means that‭” ‬to take hold.‭

You tell your best friend about the date you went on a couple of days ago.‭ ‬Things seemed to go well...at least you thought so.‭ ‬But he’s not returned any of your texts since then and the weekend is almost here with no invitation from him to go out again.‭ ‬You’re trying not to bum out your friend,‭ ‬but you’re worried.

You admit to her that you’re sure your date’s silence means that he doesn’t want to see you again.‭ ‬You go on to ask,‭ “‬Does this mean that there’s something wrong me‭?!”

Focus on what’s true.‭
If you have a habit of using these three words that can ruin your happiness‭ (‬and chance for love‭)‬,‭ ‬you’re not alone.‭ ‬It’s natural for anyone to want to make sense of a disappointing or frustrating situation,‭ ‬especially one that doesn’t make sense.‭

Rather than criticize yourself for doing what so many of us do,‭ ‬begin to notice it.‭ ‬When you feel puzzled and start throwing out guesses about why someone is behaving as he or she is or why your life is the way it currently is,‭ ‬stop.‭

Bring yourself out of‭ “‬this means that‭” ‬and back to the facts that you know to be true right now.‭ ‬Replace your‭ “‬this means that‭” ‬theory with the truth.‭ ‬Focus in on the literal words that were said to you.‭ ‬Look for observable and reliable information that will help you understand what’s going on.‭

Do your best to leave the rest behind‭ (‬including what may have been true in the past‭) ‬and remember,‭ ‬YOU get to choose where you place your attention.‭

Find out what’s possible.‭
Maybe erasing the words‭ “‬this means that‭” ‬from your vocabulary doesn’t feel realistic.‭ ‬After all,‭ ‬it’s kind of like asking someone to pretend that there’s not a pink flamingo sitting in the living room.‭ ‬There's no denying your very vivid and real fears...even if there isn't proof that those fears are accurate now or that they'll happen in the future.‭

9‎ ‏times out of‭ ‬10,‭ ‬you can't know what will happen in the future.‭ ‬Why not base your decision about how to respond to a worrisome situation on the facts that you can know‭? ‬Calm your fears by remembering that what you can't know and what you do know.‭

‬This will help you see what's actually possible.

Before you conclude that the guy across the room isn't interested in you,‭ ‬find out more.‭ ‬Work up the courage to walk up to him and say‭ “‬hello.‭” ‬Ask him to dance with you.‭ ‬Explore what's possible by taking a risk.‭

With the date you've not heard from in a couple of days,‭ ‬make a call or send one more text to him.‭ ‬Don't play games,‭ ‬but let him know how much you enjoyed going out and that you'd like to do it again.‭ ‬Be clear and say that you're available this weekend but will make other plans if you don't hear from him.‭

This isn't meant to be manipulation,‭ ‬it's merely communicating that you aren't going to continue to incessantly text him and you won't be sitting around waiting either.‭

If he says,‭ “‬no‭” ‬or refuses to respond,‭ ‬you can rebound more quickly if you re-focus on other options.‭ ‬Don't use this temporary set back to return‭ “‬this means that‭” ‬to your vocabulary.‭

Instead,‭ ‬ask yourself a question like,‭ “‬What else would be fun this weekend‭?” ‬or‭ “‬Who would I enjoy spending time with since he is not available‭ (‬or answering my texts‭)?”  ‬The more options you present to yourself,‭ ‬the better chance that you'll be happy and the quicker you'll meet‭  ‬someone who is a match for you.‭

Finding love isn't brain surgery‭! ‬As you erase limiting thoughts and keep yourself open,‭ ‬the right partner will come into your life easily and even effortlessly.‭ ‬Automatic Attraction Secrets shows you how.‭ ‬Visit‭ ‬www.AutomaticAttractionSecrets.com to get started today.

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