The Green-Eyed Monster: Holiday Edition

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Don't let jealousy takeover and destroy your holidays (and relationship) this year!

The big kicker is that what you are thinking might not be accurate or true. It is advisable to interrupt your jealous thoughts. Interrupt them as soon as you notice them. We're not suggesting that you attempt to banish them from your mind, but try to slow down their momentum. This will allow you to think more clearly and to base your decision about what you will say or do on reliable information and not solely on your thoughts.

Remember, you have a choice.

Know that you always have the power of choice. You can make conscious decisions about how you will spend your holidays. If being around a particular person or being in a certain kind of situation is especially triggering for you, give yourself the option to do something else.

Talk with your partner about how you feel and ask him or her to support you in doing things differently this year. Make it your intention to do what supports you in overcoming your jealousy habit. This might mean that you don't attend the same holiday parties you've always attended or that you go to the parties, but with a different mindset. 10 Ways To Show Yourself Love This Holiday Season

You have a choice when it comes to your jealousy too. Every time you choose to interrupt your jealous thoughts and question them, you are making a choice. You are deciding that your desire to feel more confident within yourself and more connected with your partner is more important than the (painful) comfort of continuing to do things in the same way.

Keep returning to what's true.

Do your best to be more present more of the time this holiday season. Two things that build momentum for the green-eyed monster are living in the past and futurizing. The past already happened. To make it your main focus will cause you to miss out on precious experiences and valuable information about the here and now. The future is yet to be. You can guess all day and night about what might happen and you could still be wrong.

Keep bringing yourself back to the present moment and to what's true for you. Make sure that you have reliable information as you decide what is true for you. Ask yourself questions like, "What is really going on at this moment?" and "What do I need right now?" Really listen to yourself and then take steps that will help you meet your needs. 3 Simple Steps To Improve Your Self-Confidence

The green-eyed monster doesn't have to ruin your holidays this year. Be willing to interrupt your jealousy and be present. That is possibly the biggest present you can give yourself and your relationship.

Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect, and create the relationship they desire.  Click here to get their free special report: "7 Jealousy-Stopping Secrets."

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
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