Is It Time to Get a Second Opinion to Save Your Marriage?

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Is It Time to Get a Second Opinion to Save Your Marriage?
When it's time for outside advice for your marital troubles who should you turn to?

We also encourage you to turn to those close to you for support and love. Don't shut them out or pretend that everything is okay when it's not.

This is different from relying on them for advice. Be specific about what kind of soothing or support you'd like to receive right now and ask for that. It might be a hug, someone to just listen to you, spend time with or help you complete certain tasks.

 

What are your alternatives?

If you've decided that it's time to get a second opinion about your marital troubles, look at all of your options. There are many counselors, therapists, psychologists, coaches, mediators and social workers who are possibly available to you.

Consider not only your financial situation and whether or not your health insurance will cover costs for services, but also be sure to get some idea of who you'll be working with.

Make sure you choose a professional who specializes in relationships or the specific issue that is going on in your marriage. Also, look for someone who approaches marriage and relationships in a way that resonates with you.

Be willing to interview or talk with the professional in advance and to research him or her online. Ask friends and family members if they have recommendations for a professional they may have been helped by in the past.

Even if your spouse refuses to join you in coaching or therapy sessions, this can still save your marriage. A professional can help you open up to new ways to view the challenges and can also teach you new strategies and skills.

Getting a second opinion and finding advice that is truly helpful can mean the difference between continued conflict or re-connection and love.

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*If there is violence or abuse in your relationship, this is your wake up call to make some changes and soon. Get to a safe space if you are being emotionally, physically or sexually abused. Whether or not you stay married, please consider seeking help from a professional.

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 To find out more about Susie and Otto Collins' Relationship Breakthrough Coaching services, visit: http://www.passionateheart.com/coaching.htm

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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