How To Fall 'In Like' With Your Spouse

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Out of 'Like' With Your Partner
Yes, you love your partner, but do you really like him or her?

If being "in like" with your partner for the long-term sounds impossible to you, think again. Back up and ask yourself what kind of relationship experience you want.

Is it one where you can barely tolerate your spouse and you schedule your life so that you don't have to be around him or her very much? Or, is it one where you look forward to the connection and the adventures you share together?

Rather than an annoyed and bothered "What now?", you consistently dream and anticipate "What's next?"

If you want more from your marriage and you'd like to enjoy being with your partner and you're not right now, it's time to make some changes.

The first thing we recommend you do is to start questioning your criticisms.

Of course, you probably aren't making up the fact that your husband is rude to restaurant servers or that your wife repeats her questions to you over and over again, for example. But, these annoying aspects can start to overshadow the whole person that your partner is. When you become accustomed to only seeing your partner as the rudeness, nagging or whatever it is that repels you, everybody gets short-changed — your spouse and yourself.

Instead, get into the habit of questioning your criticisms. Is it possible that your own impatience or discomfort in a situation is making your partner's irritating behavior seem like a bigger deal than it actually is?

Is it possible that you are angry or feeling resentful about something else in your marriage or another area of your life and that is why, in this particular moment, you can't stand to be around your partner?

We don't know what is true for you, but it's important that you take the time to find out. Before building up the criticisms of your partner that jump into your mind, question them and get clear about what is really going on for you.

It could be that what you need is some time to yourself to de-stress, sort through a bad mood or problem that's troubling you. It could be that you need to create some agreements with your partner about specific behaviors. It could be that you need to resolve some lingering conflict that you thought was past, but really isn't. 9 Sneaky Ways To Let Him Know You Like Him

Remove the blocks that you have to authentically liking your spouse. This will allow you to re-discover who he or she is at this time, and to see all there is that you can like as well as love.
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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the relationship they desire.  Click here to get their free ebook, Passionate Heart-Lasting Love.

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
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Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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