Just Got Dumped? When & How To Start Dating Again!

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Just Got Dumped? When & How To Start Dating Again!
Heal and move on from your breakup or divorce with these tips...

As Jennifer records her thoughts and feelings, she recognizes that she does feel lonely quite often. There is a part of her that is interested in learning to trust a man again in a love relationship.

Allow it to happen.
If you have decided that you are actually ready to date again, you might experience a whole range of emotions next. You might feel some nervousness, excitement and perhaps even a little self-consciousness.

It may have been quite a while since you were out in the dating world-- or it might not have been that long ago. In either case, the process of attracting a date and finding the right match for you can be thrilling and it can be challenging too.

What you may have found in the past is this: When you worry about and/or try to force a date or a relationship, it doesn't usually work well.

On the other hand, when you focus in on enjoying each moment-- including the people who come and go through your life-- dates and a wonderful relationship can develop naturally.

You might even find your soul mate!

Learn how to allow whatever is going to happen with others...to happen.

Of course, we advise you to know what you want and to make deliberate choices about what you are willing to do (and what you are unwilling to do) in particular situations.

For example, Jennifer has started to make a list of the characteristics she'd like in her next love relationship. She has written: “trusting, passionate, fun, respectful, honest, open and sexually satisfying” in her journal.

You can become clear about what you want to attract in a relationship even if you haven't necessarily met the other person yet.

Keep healing and releasing the past.
Even after you've met an interesting person and started dating him or her, continue to regularly check in with yourself. It is also crucial that you keep doing whatever you need to do to heal.

Truly healing from a broken heart can take some time. Emotional pain can be multi-layered.

Be aware if you become upset by something that happens in your dating relationship and your reaction seems more intense than the situation warrants. This could indicate that you are reacting more from the past than from the present.

Especially as this dating relationship develops, it will be beneficial for you to release the past bit by bit.

It may seem to you that you've done all of the letting go that you can do...until you come upon another layer and opportunity to let go of that ended relationship more.
What you'll most likely find is that the more present with this new person in your life you are, the closer the two of you can become.
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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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