4 Ways To Help Your Man Get A Clue

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4 Ways To Help Your Man Get A Clue [EXPERT]
Help your man get a clue about what you want and need in your relationship.

This isn't a sign that he or she doesn't love and care about you, it just means that your partner is a unique and separate person. Your partner lives in a different body with different likes, dislikes, moods and experiences.

Even if you two have been together a long time, your partner is still not going to be a mind reader. Take this as an invitation to never stop discovering who you are and letting your partner in on that discovery, as well. Top 10 Tips For Building Loving Relationships

 

2. Don't assume he/she is an uncaring idiot.

It can be a real downer when you really wanted your partner to say or do something and it doesn't happen. It can feel like a personal insult or as an indication that your partner isn't capable of clueing into you.

The result of believing that your partner is an uncaring idiot is that you treat him or her as one. You come off as patronizing, sarcastic or pull away from your partner because of this belief. Acknowledge it when you feel dissatisfied or as if something is lacking in your relationship.

You must figure out what, at your core, you actually want. Then, talk with your partner about this in a way that isn't blaming, critical or a put- down.

3. Communicate when he's available.

When you do talk with your partner about what it is you want (whether it's a "big" or a "small" thing), make sure he or she is truly free to listen and engage with you. A mistake that many couples make is trying to communicate when one (or both) of them is otherwise occupied. If your partner is doing the dishes, surfing the Internet, taking care of the kids or texting, that is not the time to talk.

Sit down and ask your partner, "Are you free to talk with me for a few minutes now?" or, "I'd like to talk about plans for this weekend. When could you be free to talk about that?" When you both are fully focused on the conversation, it's amazing how much more effectively you can communicate.

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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