4 Ways To Help Your Man Get A Clue

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4 Ways To Help Your Man Get A Clue [EXPERT]
Help your man get a clue about what you want and need in your relationship.

Karen has had it with her boyfriend, Jeff. He just doesn't get it. In order to get the kind of romance and special treatment she wants, Karen has to drop blatant hints, and even then, he only occasionally understands that she'd like him to "surprise" her with flowers, a compliment or dinner out.

This relationship feels like so much work, and Karen wonders if it's worth it. Does it ever feel like your man (or your woman) just doesn't "get" you? Maybe you two are opposites and your differences are what drew you to one another in the first place. But, now it feels like those differences make it impossible for you to really communicate and connect.

You end up disappointed and frustrated much of the time. Your partner seems utterly clueless about what you like, what you want from the relationship and who you are. Even if you and your partner aren't all that different, it can still feel like something essential is missing. 5 Questions To Ask Before Ending Your Relationship

Your partner should know that you wanted chocolate instead of vanilla ice cream. He should've remembered that this was the day of your big presentation at work and taken you to dinner to celebrate. She should've understood that going out with your buddies tonight was important to you, and your movie night can be re-scheduled.

If you feel misunderstood or as if you and your partner come from different planets, this is prime breeding ground for resentment, arguments and maybe even cheating or breaking up. We don't think you're making this stuff up!

Yes, it is irritating when you feel like you've sent the message loud and clear that you like or want something in your relationship, and your partner doesn't hear or follow through. Sometimes, our men (and women too) act clueless. For various reasons, they completely miss what you've said, or don't respond in a way you'd like.

If a healthy and happy relationship is what you want, try these four ways to help your partner get a clue:

1. Don't assume he's a mind reader.

It's a trap that many of us fall into. You are probably well aware of what you prefer and want from your partner, and you act as if your partner is somehow instantly aware of this too. He or she is most likely not. Your partner is not a mind reader.

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

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