How Talking To Your Partner Can Save Your Sex Life

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How Talking To Your Partner Can Save Your Sex Life [EXPERT]
Learn why communication is the key to satisfying sex!

3. Say things like, "Here's what I like..." It's always best to focus mostly on what it is you do like. If you can find something you enjoy about your current sexual habits with your partner, this is a wonderful place to start. You could say, "I love it when you kiss the back of my neck when we're in bed together and getting ready to have sex. That really gets me going!"

Continue to talk about the things that please you and be sure to include the things that your partner isn't doing that you think would please you and that you'd like to try out. To address your partner's sexual habits that you can't stand, make a simple request such as, "Please don't ______ because I don't find that enjoyable during sex." Be straightforward about this and then return to what you would like more of in the bedroom.

4. Ask your partner, "What do you like?" To really engage your partner in this conversation, ask what he or she would like more of, or what he/she would like you to do differently. Now, it's your turn to listen and stay open. Don't make your partner wrong for having certain desires, and don't get defensive if he or she tells you to stop doing something a particular way (or at all).

Stay true to what you are willing (and unwilling to do), but be sure to invite yourself to get a little adventurous. Try some new things the next time you make love with your partner. Experts Reveal How To Revive Your Sex Life Post-Kids

More on the sex surveys cited in this article can be found here and here.

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