3 Ways To Get Out Of The Doghouse

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3 Ways To Get Out Of The Doghouse [EXPERT]
A bouquet of flowers won't get you out of trouble! Remember these tips when you're in the doghouse.

What happens if your partner still thinks this is all your fault? 

This can be tricky.  It's best if you focus on taking ownership for what you did and allow your partner to realize, on his or her own, that it wasn't all you after all.

But you can be honest with how you feel about what happened.  You can express your regret for what you did and you can say "I felt ____ when you said/did _____."

3. Substitute follow through for the flowers. Save the flowers (or any other gift) for romance!  When your partner is angry and upset, it's not a time for romance. In the vast majority of circumstances, material objects aren't a healthy or effective way to repair damage from mistakes, betrayals or hurt words.

In addition to your sincere apology and ownership of your share, the most powerful way you can start to re-connect with your partner is follow through.

Follow through with agreements (new and old) that you have made with your partner.  Let him or her know — with your consistent actions — that you have learned from what happened and that you don't intend to repeat past mistakes.

This isn't as flashy as expensive jewelry or a bouquet of flowers, but it is far better for your relationship.

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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