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Feeling Needy? 4 Attention-Getters Your Partner Can't Ignore

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Feeling Needy?  4 Attention-Getters Your Partner Can't Ignore
Get more love, attention and connection in your love relationship or marriage.

Think about any habits, behaviors or activities that you've experienced in the past that HAVE given you a sense of fulfillment and love. If can't think of any, brainstorm a list and start experimenting.

You're probably not going to feel instantly great, but be on the lookout for when you feel a little bit better.

#3: Say what you DO want.

It's undeniable that your partner's actions DO have a strong effect on your experience. It's possible that you are doing what you can to fulfill your own needs and you still feel ignored and unimportant.

Maybe it's the constant texting with friends or incessant social networking online, but your partner seems to spend more time focused on other people and things and not on you. This hurts even if it isn't a conscious rejection.

Talk with your partner about these specific habits. Choose your words carefully. If you accuse him or her of not caring about you or any other guess at motives or emotion, this isn't going to help.

Defensiveness, hostility and further distance aren't the kind of attention you probably want.

Instead, talk about what you DO want. Give credit for what's already happening in your relationship that you DO appreciate. Make requests like, “Can we cuddle together on the couch in an hour?” or “Would you join me for a (phones off) walk this evening?”

#4: Be your own unique, attractive self.

In each moment, continue to tap into and really value what makes you uniquely you. The more authentically you live, the more attractive and interesting you'll be. You'll also be happier too!

Be aware of your partner and what's going on with him or her but, make your central focus you. Support yourself in being confident and true to you.

We promise, this will make neediness a thing of the past!
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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the relationship they desire.  Click here to get their free ebook, Passionate Heart-Lasting Love.

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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