Is Facebook Bad for Your Sex Life?

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Is Facebook Bad for Your Sex Life?
5 Ways to Keep Your Relationship Close and Passion Alive

Without a doubt, Facebook has revolutionized the way that we interact with one another.

Everything from party invites, community events and holiday family photos to political and philosophical statements and everyday commentary on what was eaten for lunch get posted on the social networking site.

Friends, family, spouses and lovers post on one another’s walls, “like” and “share” each other’s posts and comment too. Debates occur, loving support gets offered and jokes are made.

It’s an everyday occurrence to see people checking their phones or laptops to see what’s new on their Facebook feeds. It’s also a common occurrence to see a couple sitting together at a coffee shop or cafe not talking and each on their separate mobile devices.

All of this Facebooking activity leads to the question...

“Is Facebook bad for your sex life?”

What ARE the effects on your love relationship or marriage of spending time on Facebook? Studies have shown that Facebook breeds a whole new form of jealousy. Divorce attorneys report that more and more people are citing Facebook posts in divorce filings as evidence of affairs, flirting or irreconcilable differences.

Even if you aren’t trying to decide whether to stay in or leave your relationship because of your partner’s Facebook habits, maybe you are seeing some negatives in the bedroom. Perhaps intimacy and closeness between you and your partner has dwindled and you think that Facebook might be part of the problem.

You may actually be right!

Spending time social networking can bring distance, doubt and suspicion into your relationship. Right there-- for everyone to see-- are your partner’s comments, photos and likes. There’s a lot of room for misinterpretation and assumption in a Facebook post. There’s also a lot of room for temptation and crossing the line with Facebook as exes and former sweethearts from high school are easy to find and re-connect with.

Despite these potential hazards, we don’t necessarily think that Facebook is the problem. It is a way to interact with other people and can be used in healthy ways or misused in destructive ways. It can be a trigger for things like jealousy and mistrust, but could potentially be a way to infuse more passion and fun into your relationship.

Remember these 5 tips if you’re a Facebook user and you want to keep your relationship close and passionate...

#1:Question jealous thoughts.

Jealousy is always bad for sex and intimacy of any kind with your partner. Your accusations about particular posts or constant monitoring of your partner’s Facebook wall are only going to drive him or her further away from you.

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Susie & Otto Collins

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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