Don't Take ANYTHING Personally

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Don't Take ANYTHING Personally
Tips to help you avoid this common relationship trap!

What's the difference between taking it personally and taking responsibility?

There are definitely times when your actions have played a direct role in your partner’s (or someone else’s) upset or angst. To merely dust off your hands, turn your back on whatever is going on and proclaim that, "I'm not taking this personally" is only going to make things worse.

When you don't take anything personally, you CAN still take responsibility for your share of a relationship dynamic and for your decisions that may have contributed to your partner’s hurt, frustration or pain.

If you can stay calm and look at the bigger picture of what is going on-- take off the blinders of hyper-self-centeredness-- then you can better see your role and how you can help. You can also communicate that to your partner in a way he or she can hear.

Stop when your impulse is take it personally. Check in with yourself and possibly even with your partner to get more information. Take responsibility for your share and apologize if appropriate. Work together with your partner to come up with an action that will bring improvement. 
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Susie & Otto Collins

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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