Why Are Men Attracted to Mean Women?

It can be frustrating and infuriating! You are kind and generous, but it doesn't seem to get you anywhere. You are single and you'd really like to be in a fabulous love relationship or marriage, but it just isn't happening.

When you look at who gets all of the great men or women and who has no trouble finding dates, there's a rule that appears to hold true.

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It's the b------ and jerks who seem to win at love and you don't. 

Keith always tries to be a nice guy. He really listens when the women at work talk to him — even if they're gossiping and complaining. He carries groceries and heavy boxes for the women who live in his apartment building. And, he sees men who demean women, lie to and cheat on them and treat them with disrespect walking around with dynamic and attractive women as their date.

He's the one who usually goes to and then leaves parties alone.

Jennifer can't understand it. Among her friends, it is the ones who are snobbish, aloof and even mean who seem to get the guys. When talking with a man, she is polite and takes an interest in what he has to say. In fact, she has had many really great conversations about social issues and politics with some men.

But, it's her catty friends who get invited to dance or who are taken out to dinner — not Jennifer.

Does it seem to you that you're the "reliable one" or "great friend" but never the one sought after by men or women?

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