Help! He's A Republican & I'm A Democrat

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Help! He's A Republican & I'm A Democrat [EXPERT]
4 tips to make your relationship work despite political differences.

2. Don't try to change your partner's mind. If you get into a relationship with the intention to sway your partner's politics to your party or your viewpoint on an issue, you're probably going to get frustrated and maybe resentful. It's never a good idea to try to make your partner be who you think he or she should be. This is always a recipe for disaster!

3. Appreciate the differences in your partner's position. If you and your partner are into political debates, do have them. If you don't like to argue over the issues, agree not to debate. In either case, cultivate appreciation for your partner's beliefs. 

Really listen to why your partner is a progressive or a conservative. Set aside your preconceived notions and learn a little bit about his or her unique point of view. Remember, just because you respectfully listen to your partner talk about why he or she supports a particular candidate or is for or against a certain issue, this does NOT mean you have to abandon what you believe.

4. Appreciate how your different beliefs benefit your relationship. It might surprise you to discover that the vast political differences between you and your partner actually have some positive effects on your relationship. Some people really get worked up and excited talking politics — especially if there's a debate raging. This could infuse more passion (in a good way) into your relationship. If you can keep the heated discussions fair and respectful, there may be a carry-over of more heat in your lovemaking.

For instance, look at the long-term celebrity couple James Carville and Mary Matalin. Matalin was campaign director for Republican George HW Bush's Presidential campaign while Carville was lead strategist in Bill Clinton's Presidential campaigns. Today, neither has changed parties, they continue to spar politically and yet their marriage has survived.

Perhaps what's most important to remember if you're dating your political opposite is to stay true to yourself. In order to have a happy and successful love relationship or marriage, you do not have to agree on everything. What's essential is for you and your partner to foster genuine respect, appreciation and love for one another.

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