How To Prolong 'The Honeymoon Phase'

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How To Prolong 'The Honeymoon Phase' [EXPERT]
Four ways to stay close, connected and passionately in love throughout your marriage.

Maybe you've seen the spark go out in the relationships of others. You've read headlines and studies that tell you that it's just not possible to feel as excited and fresh in your relationship as when you first got together.

So, you've resigned yourself to the belief that this will happen to you and your partner too. Passion will peak and eventually decline and you'll have to learn to be okay with that.

We can't know what will be true in your relationship, but we do know that you can have passion that continues to grow over the years. The two year bump trend can be busted. Even if you don't fully believe us, when you have a thought that passion will inevitably die, stop and ask yourself the question: "Can I really know if that will be true for me?"

2. Remove passion blockers. A really great way to keep passion alive is to figure out what's standing in the way of it. What are the habits that both you and your spouse have that squash love and stamp out fiery connection?

The passion blocker in your relationship might be the way you pick and nag at each other. It could be how busy you two are and how little time you take to be together. Or, it might be something else.

Without blaming, take an honest look at the usual ways you and your partner interact with one another and notice what specifically seems to dampen the passion. Your next step is to stop doing those things! Start out with your own behavior and create agreements with your partner to also work together on this.

3. Invite in more passion. As you start to clear away the blocks, consciously invite in more passion. This can begin with you. Has your approach to life become somewhat mundane and routine? Do you tend to stick with the way you've "always done things" instead of experimenting with something new? Continue reading ...

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Susie & Otto Collins

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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