Bring Back The Spark & Romance

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Bring Back The Spark & Romance
4 Romance-Inducing Relationship Tips

Identify what you’re carrying around that’s blocking passion and connection and start making peace with the past. You might need to talk with your partner about an old hurt. Do so with the clearly stated intention that you want to resolve this so that you can both move on.

The ultimate goal here is to release the past so that you can enjoy your relationship now.

#3: Live in the moment.

As you release clutter, make sure your attention and energy are right here and right now. A whole lot of people spend a whole lot of time not only remembering mistakes of the past, but also projecting into the future.

They project worries and fears and sometimes project hopes and aspirations.

There’s nothing wrong with dreaming about how fabulous your future will be, but this can cause you to feel deprived and stuck right now. None of us can know with 100% accuracy what will happen in the future. To dwell on it-- either negatively or positively-- robs us of what’s going on now.

Don’t miss out on the really great things that are percolating between you and your partner in the present moment. They might not be as amazing as what you imagine, but they could be pretty close.

Best of all, you get to actually live them instead of merely imagining them.

Each and every day, greet your partner as if you’re on your first date together. Learn something new about about him or her and then keep discovering.

#4: Take charge of your own passion and excitement.

Don’t make your partner responsible for how you feel. Whether it’s anger, happiness, feeling taken for granted or respected, your emotions and your experiences are up to you. This includes whether you are bored in your relationship or delighted and excited.

See your dullness and disappointment as a wake up call. It’s time for you to step up and start living in a way that does spark your passion-- both in your relationship and outside of it too.

Start with you. Follow your dreams and give yourself permission to explore what makes you  come alive. 

Cultivating a close relationship with your partner can be part of this. Make it a priority to bring back the spark in your relationship and set aside regular time for fun and connecting. 

Be sure to also spend time on or discover other interests you have. Even if it's birdwatching or baking bread (which are both wonderful activities), find out what helps you engage with your life more fully and then dive into it. 

You can even share these interests of yours with your partner and do them together. This is absolutely bound to make the sparks of love fly!
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Susie & Otto Collins

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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