Avoid this Dating Downer....

By Susie And Otto Collins. Posted on Jun 12th 2012.

3 Ways to Tell Your Date that You're a Widow

Make sure you are in a place where you can be glad for the past, but now you fully engage with and focus on the present moment-- including this interesting and attractive person you are with in the here and now. Believe us, your words and actions will let your date know whether you are past- or present-focused.

#3: “I honor him/her and I am moving on.”

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We don't want to give the impression that you aren't “allowed” to talk about your spouse who has passed away when you're on a date. If something comes up or if you are asked, feel free to share.

Your experiences with your spouse helped to shape who you are at this point. This is nothing you have to hide or gloss over.

The important thing is to keep yourself in the present moment and stay open to kind of future you desire. Do this when you meet new people, are on a first (or subsequent) date and when that new relationship happens too.

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You can honor the memory of your spouse AND live your life in a way that shows you are also eager for what's next.
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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.

Visit http://www.relationshipgold.com to get their free ebook: Passionate Spark- Lasting Love as well as access to free articles and resources to help you improve your love relationship or marriage.

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