Are You Facebooking Your Way to an Affair?

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Are You Facebooking Your Way to an Affair?
You may be headed for infidelity and not even realize it!

Identify what specific needs you have that aren't being met in your relationship. Please remember, it is not your partner's job to make you feel a certain way. It is YOUR job to notice it when you feel unfulfilled and then it's YOUR job to do something about that.

So many people don't even realize that they feel like their relationship is missing something until they have already broken trust and cheated or betrayed their partner in a different way. Stay tuned in to you so that you can know when you yearn for more.

Create and stick to social networking agreements.

Doing something about your unmet needs is probably going to involve you making some changes. When you recognize what your unmet needs are, think about some possible changes you could make in your habits, behaviors and words.

Agreements-- that you make with yourself and also with your partner-- are a wonderful way to put those changes into effect so that you can start to feel more satisfied with your relationship.

For example, you could make an agreement with yourself that you will no longer IM or direct message with a particular person (or people) you feel attracted to.

You could ask your partner to create an agreement with you to set aside one evening a week for connecting with one another. This can be a time to hang out, be silly together, make love, talk, exercise together or whatever you feel moved to do.

Stick with the agreements that you make and notice how you feel. When you're on Facebook, post about the great times you're sharing with your partner!
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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the relationship they desire.  Click here to get their free ebook, Passionate Heart-Lasting Love.

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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