If it feels like social networking sites, like Facebook and Twitter, are ruining your relationship, you're not alone.
New technology brings greater ease in communication and connecting. There are no borders and few boundaries. A person on one side of the world can have a very intimate and private interaction with someone on the other side of the world via the web. Flirting, jealousy, infidelity, arguments and breakups can all revolve around social networking.
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Of course, it's not literally Facebook that is threatening anyone's relationship, it's how these sites are often being used.
What makes social networking so popular is also what makes it potentially dangerous to your relationship. It's easy, quick and we sometimes forget that it's oh so public.
While joking back and forth with someone you once had a crush on in high school on Facebook seems completely harmless and innocent to you, your partner might not agree.
The direct messages between you and your co-worker that start out focused on work gripes and morph into spouse gripes and morph yet again into flirting could open the door to something you're weren't consciously intending.
You might unexpectedly find yourself in an online or in-person affair all because of these “harmless” jokes, pokes, messages and posts.
As faithful to your relationship as you believe you are, be honest with yourself. Is there anything about your social networking posts or interactions with others that you'd be embarrassed or uncomfortable for your partner to know about? Do you frequently keep secret from your partner who you've been chatting with online?
If so, take a second look at your online habits.
Do you tend to do your social networking when your partner isn't home or when you can be alone on the computer? Do you seek out particular people from your past (or present) whom you may be sexually attracted to...even if you are sure you'd never act on those feelings? Do you habitually complain about or put down your partner in your posts?
The idea here is to prevent an affair before it happens.
If you recognize that you are secretive about what you do when you're on social networking sites, explore your motives. What seems to be compelling you to do what you've been doing?
Identify your unmet needs.
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In the vast majority of cases, people who cheat don't feel like their needs are being met in their relationship and so they look to others. The need might be for affection, validation, confirmation that you still “have it,” sexual satisfaction or companionship.
If you find yourself turning mostly to others-- especially if it's one particular person-- to meet your needs, you might be headed for an affair. Again, this might not be your conscious intention.