Age Doesn't Have To Matter In Marriage

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Age Doesn't Have To Matter In Marriage
How to avoid the hazards of an age gap in your marriage

Your beliefs are the stumbling blocks in all of these examples. You can’t know how getting older will actually go for your partner or for yourself either. Projecting into the future isn’t going to benefit anyone so question those thoughts when they come to mind.

You CAN know if you’d like to shift the way decisions are made in your relationship or if you’d like to feel more equal with your spouse. When you realize this, get specific. Figure out how you want to be more of a leader in your relationship and communicate your intention to your partner.

Learn how to grow together.
You’re NEVER the same person you used to be and neither is your spouse. The more you can accept and be at peace with this fact, the easier it will be for you to be happy and stay connected to one another.

Stay open and curious about yourself and your partner.

Resist any urge to “freeze” either of you in a particular way. There will be personality characteristics and preferences that remain the same and there will be other things that change as you each grow.

When you keep communication honest and non-blaming, you can grow together. 

Set aside regular time to talk about things other than the kids, home projects or your usual everyday topics. Talk about what you each find interesting. What are you itching to try (either in your relationship or personally)? How are you stretching and stepping outside of your usual mode?  Talk about it and find out what is happening with your partner that might not be obvious.

This kind of regular communication will build trust and keep you in tune with one another. It will make any changes or transitions ahead-- whether because of age or any other reason-- smoother and enriching for your marriage.
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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
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Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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