6 Holiday “Have To's” that Wreck Your Relationship

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6 Holiday “Have To's” that Wreck Your Relationship
Put aside these "have to's" and obligations and have a truly joyful holiday this year

The holidays can be an emotionally triggering time of year for many people because of painful past experiences or other reasons. If you feel compelled to be happy and you're actually not, stop pretending.

You don't have to be a downer to others in the process.

You can carefully choose the holidays events you will attend and those you will skip this year. You can be honest with your partner about how you're feeling and ask for support and space when you need it. You can also talk with a professional counselor or coach who can help you work with the difficult emotions that are coming up which can help immensely.


The holiday “have to's” don't have to stand in the way of you and your partner creating the kind of relationship you want. Learn how to communicate honestly and openly about what's true for you AND keep your connection healthy and strong.

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Our 500 Communication Tips & Secrets will show you how to put the “have to's” behind you and open up to better communication, closeness and passion with your partner.

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
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