6 Habits to Stop Now for Online Dating Success

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6 Habits to Stop Now for Online Dating Success
What NOT to do if you want to attract love online.

#4:  TMI
Some of us are talkers and we share about everything in our past and our current lives. EVERYTHING! Especially when you’re writing up a bio about yourself or communicating with a date, think first before hitting the “enter” key. Does this person need to know how crushed you were when your high school sweetheart dumped you? Does he or she really care about that rash you had last month?

Know when it’s TMI (too much information) and choose to share interesting and meaningful things about you that won’t overload or gross out your date.

#5: Jealous
Jealousy is a mood killer and will send your date running away. Acknowledge it if you get jealous easily and try to understand what triggers you. When those situations come up, have a plan for what you’ll do. Make a list of words, phrases and actions that help you calm down and see clearly.

As a relationship develops between you and your special someone, create clear agreements. Agreements can be as simple as how often you two expect to contact one another or the level of commitment you have in your relationship. The less confusion about “what this is,” the easier it is to soothe jealousy.

#6: Live in the past
We humans seem to have a nasty habit of living in the past. It’s understandable because it’s what we know. It’s firmer in our minds because we just lived it in memory or real life. It’s a wonderful thing when you can learn from and appreciate your past, but it can be a serious block to love when you can’t get out of the past.

If you have a habit of comparing your date to your ex, stop! When you view what’s happening now through a past-focused perspective, your vision will be skewed. You won’t know whether you’re reacting to this person you’re just getting to know or actually to a memory.

Make it your intention to be present and to meet your date from the here and now. This is far more enjoyable AND it will set you up for success at love...instead of more of the same.
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