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6 Habits to Stop Now for Online Dating Success

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6 Habits to Stop Now for Online Dating Success
What NOT to do if you want to attract love online.

Has it felt like a ghost town lately with very few or no posts or responses on your dating site account? Or, have you had plenty of communication with so-called “matches” who pretty quickly showed themselves to be creeps?

You might wonder if online dating is worth the hassle and disappointment. You might also wonder if you’re just unlucky at love and destined to be alone.

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Whether you’re trying to find love online or offline, it can be a confusing and frustrating experience! The good news is that it IS possible to meet your perfect partner online through a dating site, forum or social networking site.

More good news is that it’s within YOUR power to turn around the miserable dating you’ve been having. 

To attract the kind of partner you’re looking for, you’ve got stop doing certain things. Maybe you’ve represented yourself or interacted with others in this way for as long as you can remember, but these habits could be the very reason why you’re not already with a partner who is right for you.

These 8 habits will prevent you from finding love online...

#1: Too picky
It’s good to know what you’re looking for in a partner and in your life. Being particular can serve you well, but being too picky will seriously limit your chance at dating success.

If you quickly dismiss people because you don’t like their profile picture or the way they worded their interests, maybe you’re being overly selective and critical. Keep an open mind and find out more as you decide who to get to know better and who to pass up.

#2: Too easy
For every person who is too picky, probably more are people pleasers. Especially if you struggle with low self esteem, your habit may be to do whatever it takes to gain approval from others, including those you don’t know well.

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Catch yourself when you agree or change what’s true for you just because you worry the other person will otherwise lose interest. When you’re too easy in this way, you’re not doing yourself or your date any favors. Be genuine, even if it means a few dates don’t contact you again. There’s no such thing as your “one chance at love” so don’t compromise who you are just to get a date.

#3:  Too secretive
Do you think that being mysterious and aloof are enticing? Think again. Your attempt at “sexy and mysterious” will likely come off as “secretive and evasive.” Don’t give the impression that you have something to hide. Many people already feel skeptical and suspicious of strangers they meet online, don’t give them reasons to doubt that you are authentic and the real you.

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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