Has it felt like a ghost town lately with very few or no posts or responses on your dating site account? Or, have you had plenty of communication with so-called “matches” who pretty quickly showed themselves to be creeps?
You might wonder if online dating is worth the hassle and disappointment. You might also wonder if you’re just unlucky at love and destined to be alone.
Whether you’re trying to find love online or offline, it can be a confusing and frustrating experience! The good news is that it IS possible to meet your perfect partner online through a dating site, forum or social networking site.
More good news is that it’s within YOUR power to turn around the miserable dating you’ve been having.
To attract the kind of partner you’re looking for, you’ve got stop doing certain things. Maybe you’ve represented yourself or interacted with others in this way for as long as you can remember, but these habits could be the very reason why you’re not already with a partner who is right for you.
These 8 habits will prevent you from finding love online...
#1: Too picky
It’s good to know what you’re looking for in a partner and in your life. Being particular can serve you well, but being too picky will seriously limit your chance at dating success.
If you quickly dismiss people because you don’t like their profile picture or the way they worded their interests, maybe you’re being overly selective and critical. Keep an open mind and find out more as you decide who to get to know better and who to pass up.
#2: Too easy
For every person who is too picky, probably more are people pleasers. Especially if you struggle with low self esteem, your habit may be to do whatever it takes to gain approval from others, including those you don’t know well.
Catch yourself when you agree or change what’s true for you just because you worry the other person will otherwise lose interest. When you’re too easy in this way, you’re not doing yourself or your date any favors. Be genuine, even if it means a few dates don’t contact you again. There’s no such thing as your “one chance at love” so don’t compromise who you are just to get a date.
#3: Too secretive
Do you think that being mysterious and aloof are enticing? Think again. Your attempt at “sexy and mysterious” will likely come off as “secretive and evasive.” Don’t give the impression that you have something to hide. Many people already feel skeptical and suspicious of strangers they meet online, don’t give them reasons to doubt that you are authentic and the real you.
Some of us are talkers and we share about everything in our past and our current lives. EVERYTHING! Especially when you’re writing up a bio about yourself or communicating with a date, think first before hitting the “enter” key. Does this person need to know how crushed you were when your high school sweetheart dumped you? Does he or she really care about that rash you had last month?
Know when it’s TMI (too much information) and choose to share interesting and meaningful things about you that won’t overload or gross out your date.
Jealousy is a mood killer and will send your date running away. Acknowledge it if you get jealous easily and try to understand what triggers you. When those situations come up, have a plan for what you’ll do. Make a list of words, phrases and actions that help you calm down and see clearly.
As a relationship develops between you and your special someone, create clear agreements. Agreements can be as simple as how often you two expect to contact one another or the level of commitment you have in your relationship. The less confusion about “what this is,” the easier it is to soothe jealousy.
#6: Live in the past
We humans seem to have a nasty habit of living in the past. It’s understandable because it’s what we know. It’s firmer in our minds because we just lived it in memory or real life. It’s a wonderful thing when you can learn from and appreciate your past, but it can be a serious block to love when you can’t get out of the past.
If you have a habit of comparing your date to your ex, stop! When you view what’s happening now through a past-focused perspective, your vision will be skewed. You won’t know whether you’re reacting to this person you’re just getting to know or actually to a memory.
Make it your intention to be present and to meet your date from the here and now. This is far more enjoyable AND it will set you up for success at love...instead of more of the same.
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