6 Habits to Start Developing Day 1 of Your Marriage

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6 Habits to Start Developing Day 1 of Your Marriage
Keep that loving feeling alive long after you two say, “I do”

There are other lies that get told too and they are just as damaging. “Little” white lies that may seem to protect your partner’s feelings are habit-forming and would be wise to stop doing now. Be honest with yourself about how you really feel and what you really want and then find a way to communicate that to your partner.

4. Be kind.
Being honest doesn’t have to mean you are blunt, harsh or hurtful. You can be loving and respectful AND truthful whether you’re talking about every day topics or big and sensitive ones. Don’t take your partner’s love for granted by treating him or her worse than you would your best friend.

Use polite words when speaking to (and about) your partner and refrain from hurtful teasing or sarcastic comebacks when you’re irritated or bothered. When you stay aware of how you’re feeling and you soothe yourself when you get upset, it’s easy to be kind...and to remain close to the one you love.

5. Appreciate.
You’ve probably heard too many times how important it is to regularly show your appreciation to your spouse. IT IS!

It’s just not always easy to do. This is perhaps one of the most crucial habits you can develop from day 1 of your marriage. Challenge yourself to find 3 things each day that you can genuinely appreciate about your partner and/or your marriage. These can be very small and seemingly insignificant things that make you smile, feel supported, loved or that make you life a little bit easier.

It’s best to share your appreciation with your partner in some way, but it has to be felt on the inside first and once you start looking for the good stuff, it’s not difficult to see and celebrate.

6. Have fun.
Speaking of celebrating, don’t allow the perceived seriousness of life stand in the way of you and your partner enjoying each other. Yes, deal with the painful and annoying issues that come up in your relationship, but intentionally set out to have fun together too. Have silly, smile-inducing and don’t forget passionate...fun.

Even if you’re long past the first day of your marriage, you can still develop these habits to create an amazing relationship with the one you love. We show you how in our free Passionate Spark~Lasting Love guide. Visit: www.relationshipgold.com for more passion in your life today!

 

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
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