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5 Ways to Be an Irresistible Invitation to Love

Love, Self

How to be irresistible and attract the love you're looking for...

It feels GREAT to be desired and wanted. To feel irresistible to your partner (or to a potential partner) is a real boost to self esteem and your overall mood.

Conversely, when there seems to be a lack of love in your life, it sucks.

It doesn't matter if you're already in a love relationship, you're married or you're single. If love is what you want and you're not getting it-- or the kind of love you desire-- you might start to believe that something is wrong with you.

You may begin to wonder if it's even possible to have the sort of passion, love and connection that you want.

We're here to tell you that you CAN have the kind of love you want and also that you deserve it. One secret to attracting and keeping love in your relationship and life is to invite it in.

That's right.

You can say and do things that will invite in the kind of love you want. Your habits and behaviors can make you irresistible to your partner or someone you could end up creating a relationship with.

Be an irresistible invitation to love in these 5 ways...

#1: Love yourself.

It truly does start with you. Do you tend to look to your partner for confirmation that you're sexy, attractive and loved? Does your self esteem plummet if you believe your date doesn't find you interesting?

Of course, the behavior of others has an effect. But, inviting in more love can't come from outside of you...it needs to originate within you.

Build up healthy self esteem and take regular time to treat yourself with special care and attention. Intentionally look for things about yourself that YOU find appealing, positive and irresistible.

Watch how you talk and think about yourself.

Words (whether or not they're spoken out loud) matter. Your self-talk affects the choices you make, the way you interact with others and your ability to attract a match.

Make it your intention to be more loving about and toward yourself as an example to others.

#2: Appreciate everything and everyone you can.

Too often, people complain that they're not getting the love or respect they want from others and they fail to see that this is exactly how they're treating everyone else.

Do the people in your life mostly annoy you and do you find yourself regularly listing off the things that they need to change?

While you might have valid reasons for this, it's not going to make you an irresistible invitation to love.

Practice being more appreciative. Be genuine about this and look-- really look-- for aspects of others you can appreciate and love.

Yes, your partner might chew his food loudly. Yes, your date may text while you're talking with her. At the same time, there's more to them than just these irritating habits. Try to see beyond what you normally see and start appreciating more.

#3: Get your glow on.

There's nothing more irresistible than someone who glows. This is the person who has that special something that draws people to him or her.

The great news is any one of us can get a glow on and shine just like that.

Think about the last time you were doing something you absolutely love to do. Maybe it was rock climbing or biking. Maybe it was reading a book to a child or working in your garden. It doesn't matter what the activity was, the way you felt during and after taking part in this activity is what's important.

If you came away feeling energized and more fully alive, you were getting your glow on.

Do more of what makes your heart sing and what gets your glow on. Believe us, it will show.

#4: Stay open to love in disguise.

Sometimes, love shows itself in ways you don't expect or acknowledge. Maybe your partner believes that he or she IS giving you love, respect and appreciation, but in a slightly different way than you would prefer.

Open up and allow yourself to be loved in new and different ways.

By all means, if you'd like to hear “I love you” or other specific expressions from your partner, tell him or her. Without blaming or accusing, be clear about what helps you feel special. But, don't discount unique demonstrations of love just because they don't fit what you were expecting.

You might find that love “in disguise” is actually more exciting and meaningful than what you had in mind. You might find that your partner prefers to be loved in ways that are different than what you usually do.

As a couple, you both can grow and become even more irresistible to one another as you share what you each like while staying open to receiving what is offered.

#5: Create opportunities for love.

If you're not feeling love in your relationship or life, this could be because you're not leaving room for it. We live in a busy, busy world. Sometimes, it's tough for a couple to find time to merely eat dinner together, let alone really connect.

Intentionally set aside time in your schedule to be with the one you love and to have fun, make love or just hang out.

If you're single and looking for love, the same advice applies. Allow time in your busy schedule to be with people you enjoy and do the things you like to do. This provides opportunities for you and a special someone to meet and get to know one another better.

The bottom line is this... If you want to feel irresistible, make that a priority. Treat yourself well and stay open because you never know when love will happen for you.
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