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5 Ways to Be an Irresistible Invitation to Love

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5 Ways to Be an Irresistible Invitation to Love
How to be irresistible and attract the love you're looking for...

It feels GREAT to be desired and wanted. To feel irresistible to your partner (or to a potential partner) is a real boost to self esteem and your overall mood.

Conversely, when there seems to be a lack of love in your life, it sucks.

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It doesn't matter if you're already in a love relationship, you're married or you're single. If love is what you want and you're not getting it-- or the kind of love you desire-- you might start to believe that something is wrong with you.

You may begin to wonder if it's even possible to have the sort of passion, love and connection that you want.

We're here to tell you that you CAN have the kind of love you want and also that you deserve it. One secret to attracting and keeping love in your relationship and life is to invite it in.

That's right.

You can say and do things that will invite in the kind of love you want. Your habits and behaviors can make you irresistible to your partner or someone you could end up creating a relationship with.

Be an irresistible invitation to love in these 5 ways...

#1: Love yourself.

It truly does start with you. Do you tend to look to your partner for confirmation that you're sexy, attractive and loved? Does your self esteem plummet if you believe your date doesn't find you interesting?

Of course, the behavior of others has an effect. But, inviting in more love can't come from outside of you...it needs to originate within you.

Build up healthy self esteem and take regular time to treat yourself with special care and attention. Intentionally look for things about yourself that YOU find appealing, positive and irresistible.

Watch how you talk and think about yourself.

Words (whether or not they're spoken out loud) matter. Your self-talk affects the choices you make, the way you interact with others and your ability to attract a match.

Make it your intention to be more loving about and toward yourself as an example to others.

#2: Appreciate everything and everyone you can.

Too often, people complain that they're not getting the love or respect they want from others and they fail to see that this is exactly how they're treating everyone else.

Do the people in your life mostly annoy you and do you find yourself regularly listing off the things that they need to change?

While you might have valid reasons for this, it's not going to make you an irresistible invitation to love.

Practice being more appreciative. Be genuine about this and look-- really look-- for aspects of others you can appreciate and love.

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Yes, your partner might chew his food loudly. Yes, your date may text while you're talking with her. At the same time, there's more to them than just these irritating habits. Try to see beyond what you normally see and start appreciating more.

#3: Get your glow on.

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Susie & Otto Collins

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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