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5 Resolutions to Bring Back the Bliss to Your Marriage

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5 Resolutions to Bring Back the Bliss to Your Marriage
Make 2012 the most passionate and blissful year yet for you and your spouse!

As you make your New Year's Resolutions this time around, you might consider including “improving my marriage” to your list. Sure, you and your spouse might get along pretty well. You two may have fun together and even make time for occasional date nights, but...

Is your marriage blissful?

“Bliss” can sound too good to be true in a long-term love relationship or marriage. After all, the predominant belief is that things like bliss are for those honeymoon months or, if you're lucky, years. The level of passion, intimacy and sheer pleasure with your partner seems destined to dwindle.

The most a person can hope for is that the love doesn't completely die out, right?

Wrong!

We know that bliss is possible in a marriage, regardless of how long the couple has been together and despite how busy they are with family, career, chores, pets, hobbies, interests and other things. While you might not feel that sense of complete satisfaction and pleasure 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, it can be an easily accessed and frequent experience.

This year, alongside your resolution to exercise more and eat healthier, include resolutions like these...

#1: Find and fuel bliss within yourself.

You simply cannot feel the kind of passion in your marriage that you might desire if you're dull and essentially lifeless on the inside. Want bliss in your marriage? Start with yourself.

Don't shelve your dreams and those aspirations that get you stoked up just because you believe there's no time/money/resources/energy for them. It might not be practical or doable at this moment for you to follow your dreams, but don't forget or abandon them.

If you've already forgotten what your dreams were or if what you used to dream about isn't exciting to you anymore, set aside regular time to dream-- remove limits and “yes, buts.”

Find ways to feel blissful where you are while you keep an eye out for opportunities to actually do those things you've always wanted to do while keeping up with your marriage and other responsibilities.

#2: Be more present.

This second resolution is one that will serve not only your relationship, but you individually. There is magic in living fully in the present moment. So many of us spend the majority of our time re-hashing the past or projecting into the future.

Re-train yourself so that you are more present more of the time.

Does this mean that you can't dream about the future (as in resolution #1)? No!

What it means is that you allow yourself to dream and envision the future you want AND you then come back to where you are now. You really listen to the words coming from your partner's mouth. You notice the way it feels when your love touches you or kisses you.

When you're present and you pay attention to the now, you can experience the bliss that is already here in your relationship and life.

#3: Clean up the past.

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Susie & Otto Collins

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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