You hear people talk about meeting their soulmate and scoff or roll your eyes...until it happens to you.
When you least expect it, you bump into someone and everything feels so familiar. The more time you spend together and the more you get to know the person, the more it feels like you two are just supposed to be a couple. It’s like you and your love are puzzle pieces that fit together perfectly.
This is what a soulmate relationship can feel like.
Some people describe it as kind of “coming home” and others notice an intensity of passion that they’ve not experienced before. Finding your soulmate can be an amazing gift that enriches your life and provides you with a level of love that’s beyond your imagination.
Finding your soulmate can also provide emotional pain and anguish.
If you’re already in a committed relationship, you may feel confused about what to do when you meet your soulmate. Should you leave your partner to be with your soulmate? If you’re considering dropping everything and maybe even uprooting your life to start a relationship with your soulmate, this is a risk and not a decision to be taken lightly.
Even if you’re single and your soulmate is single, there are many possible pitfalls. Misconceptions about soulmate relationships cause lovers a lot of disappointment and conflict. When you believe that, because you’re with your soulmate, your relationship will be perfect in every way, this is unrealistic. It can lead to problems and maybe even a breakup.
Even if you don’t literally believe a soulmate relationship is automatically perfect, you might think that it will be immune to some of the common challenges other relationships. THAT would be an incorrect assumption that’s bad for communication, connection and intimacy.
These 5 insights shed light on what soulmate relationships really do require...
1. Soulmates aren’t mind readers.
It could very well be that you and your soulmate know each other so well you could complete each other’s sentences. This doesn’t mean you should.
Don’t assume that you can read your partner’s mind and don’t expect him or her to do so with you. This will set you both up to feel misunderstood. No matter how in tune with one another you and your soulmate are, never believe that you know each other’s thoughts, desires, fears, hopes and needs. Healthy communication requires both honest sharing and engaged listening. This applies in soulmate relationships too!
If you sense something is bothering your partner, ask. Find out if what you think is true for the one you love, actually is.
2. Soulmates don’t always agree.
It is absolutely FALSE that soulmates “never argue or disagree.” In fact, the bond that exists between many soulmates sometimes means that differences of opinion are even more intense than they’d otherwise be. The belief that soulmates always get along and agree can inflame an already tense situation.
When you and your partner don’t see eye-to-eye on an issue, remember to breathe and don’t take it personally. Stay focused on what the question or decision is and make it your intention to be honest as you keep your connection with one another strong.
3. Soulmate relationships don’t always last.
It’s never easy when a relationship ends and perhaps even more difficult when you and your soulmate breakup. This is partly because people assume that once they find their soulmate, they’ll be together forever.
Unfortunately, infidelity, unresolvable differences and disconnection also happen when soulmates are together and can lead to breakup or divorce. Being with your soulmate doesn’t give you a pass on relationship habits that tear you two apart so stay aware and address problems when they first arise.
4. Soulmate relationships are for your growth.
What’s often forgotten is this-- your soulmate is NOT in your life to complete you or to make you happy. Your soulmate is here to teach you and help you to grow. For some people, this means that the soulmate relationship is difficult and contentious because that’s what is required--- in that place and time-- for the lesson to be learned.
The opportunity for you is to view your soulmate as a teacher and stay open to what you learn as you interact with and love him or her. When you feel irritated, annoyed or offended by your soulmate, take a step back. Ask yourself what role you play in the situation and what you are called to do differently.
5. Soulmate relationships need regular care and attention.
Soulmates need to know that, in many ways, their relationship is exactly like any other love relationship or marriage. It cannot survive and thrive without regular, high-quality care.
Don’t take it for granted that just because you’re with your soulmate, you don’t have to say “I love you,” “I appreciate you,” “How can I help” and when necessary, “I’m sorry.” Stay awake in your relationship and make conscious choices to create a close and connected relationship.
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