You hear people talk about meeting their soulmate and scoff or roll your eyes...until it happens to you.
When you least expect it, you bump into someone and everything feels so familiar. The more time you spend together and the more you get to know the person, the more it feels like you two are just supposed to be a couple. It’s like you and your love are puzzle pieces that fit together perfectly.
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This is what a soulmate relationship can feel like.
Some people describe it as kind of “coming home” and others notice an intensity of passion that they’ve not experienced before. Finding your soulmate can be an amazing gift that enriches your life and provides you with a level of love that’s beyond your imagination.
Finding your soulmate can also provide emotional pain and anguish.
If you’re already in a committed relationship, you may feel confused about what to do when you meet your soulmate. Should you leave your partner to be with your soulmate? If you’re considering dropping everything and maybe even uprooting your life to start a relationship with your soulmate, this is a risk and not a decision to be taken lightly.
Even if you’re single and your soulmate is single, there are many possible pitfalls. Misconceptions about soulmate relationships cause lovers a lot of disappointment and conflict. When you believe that, because you’re with your soulmate, your relationship will be perfect in every way, this is unrealistic. It can lead to problems and maybe even a breakup.
Even if you don’t literally believe a soulmate relationship is automatically perfect, you might think that it will be immune to some of the common challenges other relationships. THAT would be an incorrect assumption that’s bad for communication, connection and intimacy.
These 5 insights shed light on what soulmate relationships really do require...
1. Soulmates aren’t mind readers.
It could very well be that you and your soulmate know each other so well you could complete each other’s sentences. This doesn’t mean you should.
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Don’t assume that you can read your partner’s mind and don’t expect him or her to do so with you. This will set you both up to feel misunderstood. No matter how in tune with one another you and your soulmate are, never believe that you know each other’s thoughts, desires, fears, hopes and needs. Healthy communication requires both honest sharing and engaged listening. This applies in soulmate relationships too!
If you sense something is bothering your partner, ask. Find out if what you think is true for the one you love, actually is.