Do you remember the day you clicked the circle on your Facebook profile to let all of your friends know you are "in a relationship?" Announcing your coupledom online felt thrilling!
If your relationship is important to you, the thought of changing your status back to "single" is probably sad, stressful and upsetting. You're not so worried about what others would think; you just don't want to lose the one you love.
Sometimes it's in everyone's best interests for a couple to split up but you don't have to be blind-sided by a breakup. Damaged relationships can be rescued if problems are addressed before they continue too long.
Watch for these five clues that your relationship may be in trouble ...
1. His work or friends come first. Be as objective as you can when looking for clues. Your partner's monthly night out with friends or his overtime at the office when a big project is due do not necessarily mean you aren't a priority. What's the norm for how your partner spends his time? If he frequently cancels dates or changes plans with you but doesn't do this with his friends or for work, this could be a warning sign.
2. She spends most of her time texting other people. Technology has made life so much more convenient ... and complicated too! Some people can't seem to put down their cell phones long enough to really engage with those they're with — even the one they love. If your partner refuses to take a break from texting when you two are having a conversation or if she's secretive about whom she is texting with, this might be bad news for your relationship.
3. He seems distracted for no apparent reason. We seem to live in an age of distraction. Flashing lights, noise and bright colors are just about everywhere! But if your partner is distracted more than usual and doesn't listen or respond (much or at all) when you ask a question, this isn't healthy. He could be wrapped up in a problem you don't know about or he may have totally withdrawn from you.
4. She's reluctant to make future plans with you. What happens when you talk about taking a trip together this summer? What does your partner say when you ask her to go to a concert with you in a few months? Her response says a lot. If she is evasive or completely refuses to make near-future plans with you, she may be considering leaving the relationship. Remember, this is different from nervousness about planning far into the future such as talking marriage when you've only been together a few months. Keep reading ...
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