4 Reasons Why There's No Romance in Your Relationship

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4 Reasons Why There's No Romance in Your Relationship
Stop blocking passion and romance by doing this...

#3: Either or both of you are afraid to trust.

Another block to romance is mistrust. When you don't fully trust your partner (or yourself), you hold back. You aren't as open and intimate with your mate and this can be felt.

 

You might have good reason for holding back or mistrusting. It is important that you address your doubts and hesitations and get clear about whether they stem more from past experiences or from things going on now.

There simply isn't room for romance when the foundation of trust is shaky or nonexistent. Make a conscious effort to rebuild trust if it feels broken or missing and notice it when your partner follows through and keeps his or her word.

This will help you know that it's wise to trust and open yourself up again.

#4: You have different ideas of what romance and love are.

It happens all of the time. Both people in the relationship have completely different preferences and ideas of love and romance.

One might believe that he or she is expressing feelings of love while the other person doesn't see it.

While it's helpful to know how you want to be loved, try to be flexible too. Be willing to communicate to your partner what feels romantic to you, but don't go so far as to dictate or micro-manage a romantic experience that your mate might be trying to provide for you.

It can be a bit of a balancing act. Give information about what your preferences are AND invite yourself to appreciate the efforts that your partner is putting into loving you and making you feel special-- in his or her unique way.

Receive the love that's being offered to you...even if it comes in a slightly different “package” than you had in mind. This will open the door to even more romance to come.
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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the relationship they desire.  Click here to get their free ebook, Passionate Heart-Lasting Love.

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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