4 Favorite Flirting Techniques that Really Work!


Attract love with these flirting success tips...

When you think about dating and attracting a partner, the word “flirting” is bound to come to mind. What better way to get someone's attention and let him or her know you're interested!

Flirting can be subtle or over-the-top. It can be cute, silly or sexy. It can involve simply a look or talking in a particular way with particular words. Flirting can be THE thing that draws to you the one you've got your eye on or it can fail miserably.

This is the risk with flirting...

It can be a great way to communicate that you'd like to get to know the other person better and it can also be a big and embarrassing flop!

Have you ever tried to flirt with someone only to be made fun or or totally ignored? If so, you might be hesitant to flirt. Your insecurity about your flirting skills could be keeping you alone and single when you don't want to be.

Flirting is a skill and it does tend to be easier for some people than it is for others. If you are extroverted and confident, you might not see flirting as a big deal or all that difficult. But, if you are more shy, often feel awkward and are uncomfortable stepping out of your comfort zone, then flirting is probably something you don't do very often.

Please know that ANYONE can be a successful flirt!

Your way of flirting might look or sound different from someone's else's way of flirting, but that doesn't mean you can't get the results you want too. So, isn't it time to stop telling yourself that you “can't” flirt and, instead, figure out how you CAN flirt and still be genuinely who you are?

Before we share techniques to help you more effectively flirt, remember this: Flirting is a powerful method for attracting a partner and with that power comes a need for caution.

Keep this in mind...

  • Make sure the other person is available.
    There's nothing worse for your love life than to flirt with someone who is already in a committed relationship or who is out on a date that you're interrupting. Be aware of what's going on and only flirt with those who are available.
  • Make sure YOU are available.
    If you're already with someone or you've promised to be monogamous with your partner, do NOT flirt with someone else. Flirting is not “no big deal” nor is it “innocent” if you're already in a relationship. In these cases, it's a trust-breaker.
  • Pay attention to power dynamics.
    If you are in a position of authority over the person you are flirting with, this might be confusing and feel pressuring to the other person. Think about power dynamics and potential consequences first, before you flirt.
  • Don't flirt when it's an inappropriate time.
    The middle of a board meeting at work or during a parent-teacher conference at your kid's school are two times when it's most likely not appropriate to flirt. Wait until the meeting is over and then pour on your charm. 
  • Get the message if your flirting is unwanted.
    Even if the one you desire is available, he or she might not welcome your flirting. There are tons of reasons why and it doesn't necessarily mean you are being rejected. Honor the other person's wishes and back off if that's the response you get.

Here are 4 favorite ways to flirt that will get positive results!

#1: Flirt without words.
There's no need for a smooth pick-up line. Catch the gaze of the one you're interested in and look into his or her eyes for a few seconds longer than you normally would. Make sure to smile in a soft and warm way too.

Non-verbal cues can be confusing, so make sure you are feeling on the inside what you want to convey on the outside. This makes a big difference.

#2: Be real as you flirt.
Don't force or be fake about what you say or how you act. Don't pretend like you're someone you're not to hide embarrassment or insecurity. This will all come through and send the other person running in the opposite direction!

Let flirting come as naturally to you as possible and be honest. Planning out what to say before you flirt will most likely cause you to seem stiff or unreal. It's better to work more on your mood and confidence than it is to think up the perfect thing to say or try to be.

#3: Get curious (not creepy).
Get to know the person you're flirting with by getting curious. Ask questions that you really want to know the answers to and then listen and engage as he or she talks.

Don't let your nervousness hijack your focus. In other words, don't sit and think about what witty thing you'll say next as the other person talks and answers your question. You'll miss a great opportunity to connect when you do and your flirting won't be able to roll out naturally-- because you weren't paying attention.

When you ask questions about the other person, make sure you're not getting too personal too fast and don't grill for facts. Let yourself be led by what you really would like to know about the one you're attracted to and the conversation and flirting will happen more easily.

#4:  Let your best self shine.
If you want to be great at flirting, be your best self. This starts when you recognize that you've got some fabulous qualities. There is no room for low self-confidence or insecurity when attracting a date or partner so take the time to boost healthy self esteem.

Let what's wonderful and attractive about you shine through. If you don't know what that is, discover it and, once you do, you'll find that flirting is actually easy and fun.
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