3 Ways to Rebound from Rejection in Your Relationship

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3 Ways to Rebound from Rejection in Your Relationship
Feeling rejected by your love? Here's what to do to re-connect...

Your partner doesn't have to walk out on you or file for divorce for you to feel rejected.

He might close down and refuse to talk when something is obviously bothering him. She may consistently turn down your invitations to have sex or be physically intimate with her.

He could confide in a close friend-- maybe even a friend of the opposite sex-- things that he doesn't tell you about. She might refuse your help and advice, even when you have experience or expertise that could really be of benefit to her.

There are many forms that rejection can take in a love relationship or marriage. It doesn't matter how long you two have been together and it doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman-- when you feel rejected by your mate, it hurts.

Rejection can seem to be a personal thing. It can appear, to you, that your partner is turning his or her back on you. It can seem like your partner is letting you know that you are not enough in some way.

The real trick with rejection is not to let it ruin you and your relationship.

What tends to happen is something like this...

Christina feels rejected by her husband. She knows that he's going through some stressful times at work. He was passed over for a promotion and he regularly stays late at work trying to meet deadlines, that he often misses.

When her husband comes home after a long and frustrating day, Christina wants to connect with him. She wants to be there for him during this difficult time and she wants to feel special to him too. Unfortunately, her husband usually has little energy or emotion for her. He generally turns on the computer or the tv and “zones out.”

Christina feels rejected. When she feels this way, her hurt turns into anger. She lashes out by making sarcastic comments about his lack of energy at night. She also vents to her friends and “jokes” about her husband the “lump.”

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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