3 Steps To Take When You Fall For Your Friend

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3 Steps To Take When You Fall For Your Friend [EXPERT]
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2. Be clear as you communicate how you feel and what you want.

Choose your words carefully when you tell your friend how you feel about him or her. You know this person pretty well if you are close friends. If it seems like saying, "I am madly in love with you" would feel too overwhelming, be honest but scale it back a bit. For example, you might say something like, "I've realized that my feelings for you have changed. I want to be more than friends with you. How does hearing that make you feel?" Words like these may be a pretty toned down version of what you feel inside, but they are still honest and they open the door for you two to talk about what's possible in the future. The Kiss Of Death For Relationships Revealed!

3. Really listen to what your friend says.

As we said above, your friend might be a bit freaked out to hear that you have romantic or sexual feelings for him or her. Even if the feelings are actually mutual, just making that transition from friends to romantic partners or lovers can feel big. Take a deep breath and really open your heart and your ears. Listen closely to what your partner says in response.

If he or she emphatically lets you know that the feelings are not mutual and that being more than friends is not going to happen, respect that. You can feel into yourself to know if you want to continue the friendship or if you need some space to re-group. Being pushy or trying to convince your friend to be in a love relationship with you is probably not going bring either of you happiness or satisfaction. I'm In Love With A Friend. Now What?

If your friend talks about feeling surprised or confused, honor that too. Let your friend know that you will be available if he or she wants to talk more about this ... or not talk more and possibly act on those new romantic feelings!

Susie and Otto Collins are authors and relationship coaches who help people attract and sustain more love in their lives. Click here to receive their free ebook: Passionate Heart ~ Lasting Love.

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