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3 Shortcuts To A Happy Marriage

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3 Shortcuts To A Happy Marriage
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For anyone who has ever wished there was a quick and easy way to create an amazing relationship...

Shortcuts are tricky.

If we’re honest with ourselves, we all want them. Whether it’s more money, a prestigious job, a fit body or an amazing relationship, we’d all like to get what we want more quickly and without an overwhelming amount of work!

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But, we’ve also heard and know from experience that shortcuts can be deceiving. What seems like it will have fast effects, usually doesn’t. Fad diets, get-rich-quick schemes and certain relationship advice promise instant results that either don’t happen at all or don’t last long.

Former Notre Dame football coach Frank Leahy said, "There are no shortcuts in life—only those we imagine."

With all due respect, we don’t agree. We think that shortcuts deserve a second look because they actually DO work, but maybe not in the way we expect them to. You see, a shortcut that is repeated again and again becomes a habit and that habit is what can transform your relationship or your life in sustainable and lasting ways.

This new habit can be called a "shortcut" because it gets to the point and does so efficiently and powerfully. It is a focused way to address the troubling dynamics in your marriage—the old habits that you’ve possibly always had that prevent trust, honesty, connection, intimacy and passion.

A shortcut of this type can actually take effect quickly. You won’t necessarily reverse problems all at once, but you will see results soon.

What’s important is to watch your expectations. If you doubt that anything will EVER change in your marriage, you’ll probably be proven correct. On the other hand, if you’re looking for a quick fix that will virtually erase the problem, you’ll probably be disappointed.

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Re-think what a shortcut can be and look for focused ways to improve your relationship. Here are three examples to get you started. Keep Reading....

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Susie & Otto Collins

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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