3. Damage the trust your partner feels toward you. Jealousy causes you to mistrust your partner, and he/she may begin to mistrust you too. Your partner isn't sure what will set you off and what won't. He/she will be more cautious and reserved around you because you might say you're "okay" one minute and then get angry because of jealousy the next. This makes it tough for your partner to trust that you'll be honest and that you'll really listen and not jump to conclusions.
4. Damage the trust you feel toward yourself. There's no doubt that jealousy ravages trust in yourself. You question your judgment and your ability to know what's really going on because of the mind tricks that jealousy plays.
5. Make you mis-perceive common situations. Whether it's a conversation you have with your partner or something you see with your own eyes, it's interpreted through a strong filter of jealousy that is often skewed or flat-out wrong.
6. Cause you to miss out on moments of connection now. Jealousy sucks you back into the past — the painful past of betrayals and disappointments. You can't appreciate improvements to your relationship or changes your partner is making because all you can see is the past.
7. Re-start arguments you both thought were resolved. It's nearly impossible to let go of a disagreement or argument because your jealous mind will return to what you think happened — or what you think your partner "really" meant — and re-start the upset all over again.
8. Bring up more intense insecurity. You know those comparisons you make where everyone else is so much more (fill in the blank) than you are? They'll only get bigger and more intense and cause you to be more and more insecure about yourself. Keep reading ...