10 Relationship Red Flags

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6. He sleeps around when drunk. "I was wasted; it meant nothing," is not a valid excuse. Cheating is cheating and needs to be acknowledged and addressed.

7. He lies and breaks promises. Even "white lies" or "little" broken promises are bad for trust. Make sure that you're creating an environment that promotes honesty and follow through, but do take lying seriously.

 

8. He puts you down. There's a difference between a suggestion or helpful critique and a comment that is disrespectful and puts you down. Take a moment to really think about the words your partner said. Was he putting you down or were you hearing what he said through your own self-negative filter?

9. He is abusive. Whether it's physical, sexual, verbal or emotional, abuse is never okay. It's not healthy for you, and you don't have to subject yourself to it any longer. Make your safety and well-being your top priority. 

10. He refuses to commit. This one is tricky, and it mainly applies to non-married couples. It's always your partner's choice whether or not he will commit to your relationship in the way you want him to. He's not wrong for it. But, if you are firm about wanting to be monogamous, to move in together, to get engaged, have children or to get married and he refuses to make that kind of commitment, this is a problem and a sign that you two might not be a match. Keep reading ...

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Susie & Otto Collins

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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