10 Sex Tips Every Woman Should Know After 10 Years of Marriage

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10 Sex Tips Every Woman Should Know After 10 Years of Marriage
Who says spark and great sex are for newlyweds only!

#6: Explore your “no.”
If you’re like most women and men, you lead a busy (and tiring) life! You may say “no” to sex with your spouse more often than either of you prefers. You may be so used to saying “no,” you don’t really think about it. When your partner invites you to have sex and your impulse is to decline, take a moment to discover why this is. If you’re angry or annoyed, deal with the issue. If you’re tapped out, do something relaxing and rejuvenating and then see if you’re open to sex.

#7: Explore your  “yes.”
Sex only because you believe you “have to” is unsatisfying for both of you. If your attitude about sexual intimacy with your partner tends to be negative or stressful, get curious about why. It’s unhealthy to have sex when you don’t honestly want to-- even if it’s with your spouse. Figure out what your blocks to intimacy are so that when you do say “yes” to sex, you’ll fully enjoy it!

 

#8: Never stop flirting.
Flirting isn’t just for pick ups and new couples, it’s for anyone who wants to keep the spark alive. Flirting works best when it’s natural but if you haven’t been very playful or provocative with your partner in awhile, nudge yourself a bit. Be sweet, appreciative, sexy or raunchy throughout the day with your partner and then see what happens when you two are alone together!

#9: Talk about what you like.
Communicating about sex can be uncomfortable-- even if you and your partner have been together for a decade or more. Don’t assume that your partner knows what you like and what you don’t like. You can have a conversation about this when you’re not in the middle of lovemaking or you can make requests like, “Touch me there..” or “I really like that...” to enhance sex in the moment.

#10: Lighten up.
Don’t take this all so seriously. If you’re not feeling close or if sex has become dull or routine, then you might be worried. It’s important to notice what’s not working for you and to make changes, but when you can be light-hearted and playful, do. This especially applies to sex. Have fun and use your imagination when you’re cozying up with your partner. See where it leads.
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Susie & Otto Collins

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Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors who help couples communicate, connect and create the passionate relationships they desire.



 

Location: Columbus, OH
Credentials: BS, CCC
Specialties: Communication Problems, Couples/Marital Issues
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