5 Tips to Thriving Not Just Surviving as a Single on Valentines Day
Valentine's Day is the most glaring reminder of the year that you are "still" single -- or that you are single again.
It's a reminder that you still haven't found the person of your dream and each year when Valentines rolls around, it leaves you wondering if you will ever find love.
Everywhere you look, you see beautifully decorated chocolate boxes, exotic red roses, and hearts everywhere. On the radio, on the televison, in newspapers and magazines - everywhere you look, restaurants and hotels are advertising their romantic Valentine's 'specials'.
The shops are full of Valentine's cards oozing with romantic messages addressed to the 'beautiful wife' or the 'gorgeous girlfriend'.
Through flowers, fragrance and jewelry, the media portray this day as the one day of the year set aside for love, romance and passion. Not being in a relationship or even having a date on Valentine's Day can evoke feelings of loneliness, self-doubt and lowered self-esteem.
What's A Single Girl To Do?
If you are feeling down as Valentine's Day approaches take heart, there are plenty of ways to ensure you stay happy. Here are my top suggestions for you this February 14th.
Remember Valentine's Is Really Just A Commercial Enterprise
Remember that Valentine's Day is a commercial holiday. It's not about love and relationships. It's about selling flowers, cards, chocolate and champagne. Think of how many people get sucked into the false belief it's about love and go through the motions because 'they're supposed to'.
Think about all the money you are saving that you can spend on something you will really enjoy.
Celebrate Your Choice To Be Single
Don't define yourself by your relationship status. Your relationship status is not your identity. You could easily be in a BTN relationship (Better Than Nothing) and just go through the Valentine's ritual, like so many couples do.
Remind yourself that you chose to be single as opposed to being in an unhappy relationship. Feel good about that choice. Remember many people are in a relationship they can't wait to get out of or feel too scared to leave.
Do Something That Really Celebrates Your Independence
What have you always wanted to try, but for some reason never got around to? A parachute jump, an ice skating lesson, a karate class, a whole day ‘museum hopping’ and shopping, attending a live sports event, driving a Ferrari around a track?
Whatever it is – sign up for it and use the day to either research it, or actually go out and do it on Valentine’s day and make it a day to remember.
Not only does this help you have a more happy and fun life, you also become more interesting and attractive to the opposite sex. Who isn’t interested in someone with an exciting life – just turn on reality t.v. to answer that one!
Extend Your 'Love Circle' and the Definition of Love
If you are single and don't have a partner, extend the meaning of Valentine's to include doing something for other members of your family to show that you appreciate them.
Send flowers to a good friend. Send a card to your children! Invite a group of your single friends over for some fun and laughter that reminds you you don't need a partner to have a great time.
When you give love - you also get it in return. Rather than focus on getting love, focus on giving love to as many people you love and appreciate - and see what happens!
Do Something That Moves You Closer To Meeting Your Ideal Partner
If you are single and don't want to be, plan in advance to do something that doesn't put you in the path of cooing couples.
Use the opportunity to do (or organise) something new, something that might be the first step to meeting the kind of person you want to meet -- an art class, a keep-fit session at the gym, a film club.
Better yet, hire a dating, love or relationship coach and finally figure out why you aren't attracting the relationship you deserve!
Whatever you do, don't indulge in self pity. You choose your attitude to this day. Choose to make it a positive one!