- You are both open with one another ~ emotional conversation is shared easily.
- You make each other feel at ease.
- There is a flirtatious & relaxed body language shared between you.
- There is an electrical current you can actually feel when they kiss you
- You can’t wait until you see them again.
- You love their smell!
How important is it to have the same sexual interests?
Sexual desires are better if the couple are on the same wave length or else it may scare off potential partners. If you have unique fetishes you may want to join a fetish club & find a potential partner that also enjoys this. It is important not to expect everyone to have your same interests. Don’t go into a relationship thinking you can change their sexual thinking. Experimenting is great but it is always best to talk about boundaries outside the bedroom.
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Oral sex is an important part of sex to many people but there are some people who do not like it or just don’t like reciprocating. The same thing can be said for pornography or role playing ~ it isn’t for everyone. This is not to say that you shouldn’t experiment but no one should be made to feel forced or uncomfortable in a sexual scenario. You want your partner “present” and not holding their breath until the session is over or participating just to please you. Sexual enjoyment is best when both people are excited to be there.
How many times have you heard married couples say that they sleep in separate beds? Rather than try to find the spark again, they allow themselves to become complacent in a platonic environment. On the other side, there are a lot of older couples who have been married for many happy years who talk openly about their active sex life that has kept them in love forever. They will tell you sex was an important part of their union & was a large contributor to celebrating their Golden Wedding Anniversary. Let‘s face it, sexual chemistry is the glue that holds couples together.
Sex puts that little spring in your step that lasts the whole day so why would you not want it to be a permanent part of your life? Sex becomes obsolete when there is an emotional disconnection. Yes, we can all argue that some of our best sexual encounters were spontaneous and relationship-free, but for the most part sex is best when you are “in love and emotionally connected.” The bottom line is "communication" all around. ~It is the key to a great life in general but sexually speaking it is the main ingredient to a fulfilling sex-life~
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