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How To Give Feedback During Sex Without Crushing His Ego

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Girl, he needs to know what you want.

Do you ever wish you could tell your lover that what he’s doing doesn’t feel good, but you don’t want to hurt his feelings ... so you bite your tongue?

Maybe you want him to stop grinding your over-stimulated bits so you shift positions and finally pull away when he just can't take the hint.

And really, ladies, does any woman want a guy dripping armpit sweat in the middle of a lovemaking session?

But how’s he going to know if you don’t tell him? And how do you tell him so he doesn't hear it as criticism?

Too many women suffer in silence to protect the fragile male ego. You’ve seen it happen; the minute you ask for what you want when it comes to sex, he spins out and starts thinking, “I’m doing something wrong.”

If this sounds familiar, you are going to love Susan Bratton’s Sexual Soulmate Pact, just one of the many gems in her #1 International Bestseller: Sexual Soulmates: The Six Essentials for Connected Sex.

You will love this simple, straightforward approach to getting what you want in bed. I was able to convince Susan to give Your Tango readers the Sexual Soulmate Pact totally free! This is the exact method she discusses in her internationally bestselling book, Sexual Soulmates.

Susan’s methods have been field-tested for nearly a decade on singles and couples of all ages across the gender spectrum. These six essentials obliterate bedroom boredom and blast open the door to a truly fulfilling intimate life.

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Imagine how different lovemaking will be when you have totally open communication with your lover.

You’ll be amazed at what happens when you have full permission to give him feedback on his technique.

No more lying there wishing he’d manicure is damn fingernails and stop scratching your vagina. No more going into your head to figure out how to clue him in without making him freak out, shut down, and get all cranky.

A big part of the problem is the pressure you feel to be polite when he’s doing something that short-circuits your turn-on.

The Sexual Soulmate Pact is the best way to solve this problem.

It is hands-down (hands-on?) the best way to take that pressure off so you can fully relax and surrender to your pleasure.  

Here’s how it works:

Before you start making love, preferably over dinner or while snuggling on the couch, you tell him you really want to surrender to him fully.

Say, “I love our sex, and I want us to get better and better at pleasuring each other. Here’s what I’d like to do. Let’s make a pact to tell each other what we want in bed. Let’s have a feedback loop so we can become outrageous lovers for one another.”

Like Susan always says: “It’s all in the set -up.”

Truth is, most men want the feedback, but they can’t hear it if they feel criticized.

The Sexual Soulmate Pact is a work-around that sidesteps all the fragile male ego nonsense.

Smart women know the power of letting a man win and that’s what the Sexual Soulmate Pact is designed to do.

Instead of feeling hurt when you give him feedback, he’ll realize you’re doing him a favor by telling him exactly how to please you.

He won’t have to work so hard to crack the code of your arousal every time you make love. Your arousal pattern changes day to day, which makes it a total mystery to a man.

The feedback loop takes the guesswork out of it and gives him a huge win.

And we all know what that means: a huge, hard erection.

Rather than worry about his sexual skills, he’ll be over the moon when you completely surrender to his ministrations.

 

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