A Beautiful Mind: How Personality Makes Us More Attractive


How Love Transforms Our Perspective Of Beauty
When looking for love, beauty really is only skin deep.

It is a visual world, and as much as it should be about the connection of two souls ... who are we kidding? Love at first sight is not going to happen if both parties don't feel a visual connection. But once you make each other laugh or find something in common, the potential for physical attraction becomes much greater. That is what men and women want; a spark of electricty. Find that, and you may start to catch each other's attention.

I tell my clients that even pretty people get can ugly if they have an "other side." For a successful relationship, there has to be chemistry — which should translate to compatibility. Conventionally attractive people can be intimidating because they tend to think they could do "much better" or don't always give 100 percent of their good qualities. Someone who might not have originally caught your eye may in fact possess many of the qualities you're searching for in a partner: kindness, compassion, generosity or humor. And once you get to know that person, their positive traits make them all the more desireable!


This reminds me of an old song that goes something like "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, don't make a beautiful woman your wife!" This may be tongue-in-cheek, but it serves as a reminder to us to place more value on the personality and values of our potential partners. And who knows? You might just find them beautiful, to boot.

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