If you've already made your New Year's resolutions, that's great! Or, maybe you're the type of person that doesn't believe in resolutions. That's great, too. Either way, the start of a new year is a great time to stop and take a look at your existing relationship. If the relationship is good, and you want to keep things moving in the right direction, it's the perfect time to put additional focus on what's working for you and what you could be doing better. I've put together the top relationship resolutions from my clients and those I've personally implemented over the years. I hope you find these beneficial to your relationship!
1. Make Your Relationship A Priority
Each year our lives get busier, and busier. It's too easy to put your relationship on the backburner, after work and kids. Don't! A good relationship will support you through life's difficult moments so make it a priority. Find a little time every day to focus on what you can do to make it just a little better. Over time, the Compound Effect (thank you Darren Hardy!) will result in exponential benefits to your relationship.
2. Say "I Love You" Daily
Let's be honest: you can't tell someone you love him or her too much. The only people who don't want to hear this regularly are the ones that don't have the same feelings to return. Make sure that your partner hears these words every day, multiple times if necessary!
3. Check In With Your Partner Everyday (Weekly At A Minimum)
It sounds so simple, just "check in". Yet, so often we forget to do this. You get home from work, maybe you’re rushing to get dinner on the table, the kids homework taken care of, continuing a work project, etc. Your partner comes home and there's the obligatory "How was your day?" which may get the standard response of "Fine", or "The Usual". But do you really know what's going on with your spouse? Probably not. Set aside a few minutes every day to have an honest discussion about what's going on with them. How are they feeling, what's going right, what's going wrong, etc. You don’t have to fix anything, but let them know that they're important to you and you care about what’s happening in their world.
4. Schedule Regular Fun Activities Together
Find time on a regular basis (weekly, monthly, or whatever frequency works for the two of you) to do something fun together. Maybe you like to ski, go camping, or hiking. Or maybe you're more laid back and like to get a massage, go to a movie, visit a museum, or go the zoo. Whatever it is that the two of you enjoy doing, schedule time to do it.
5. Investigate New Things To Do Together
Keep your relationship fresh and growing by looking for new activities that they two of you might enjoy. Take a course on wine appreciation, take a couples cooking lesson, or learn a new language — anything that the two of you find interesting. Whatever you do, don't let your relationship stagnate!
Make 2014 the beginning of the best relationship ever! Happy New Year!
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