We are a team. Both my wife and I are the "breadwinners." We don’t lean on just one of us to make our household run. We are parents and business owners. All of the dollars we make go into the bank and help us pay our bills. When one business is slow, the other picks up slack, or we figure out how to earn more or cut back. It is a team effort. We've found that by collaborating on our work, we learn to work better as a team.
We both participate in the life of our son. When I was growing up, most of my time with my dad was spent visiting the office and talking to him on the phone while he worked. Don’t get me wrong, my dad was a part of my life as much as he could be. Yet, his obligation to a 9 to 5 job limited that family time. Because I'm a stay-at-home dad I take my son to school. I have been to several class outings, swim lessons, soccer practices and games that I might not have been able to experience if I was working 9 to 5. Dear Wife: You Make Me A Better Father
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During this recession, many fathers are choosing to stay at home with their kids or work at home. While some traditionalists look at this trend and decry the end of traditional values in relationships, I am happy with my decision to work at home and spend more time with my son. By participating in my son's life I am allowed to be the father and husband I want to be and I can't think of better traditional values to uphold.
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Of course this takes sacrifice. You may have to downsize and not be living in the biggest house on the block. You may have to work as a team to make enough income to support your family. Is it worth it? Absolutely! At the end of your life, are you going to care about the trinkets that you bought or the years you lost never getting to know your kids or your spouse?