Note: The thing about traditions is that it's OK if they are no longer relevant or have to change. When I was growing up, my family and my uncle’s family all went to my grandparents house for the holidays. Now, we're all adults and the holidays consist of 25-plus people shoved in a two-bedroom, one-bath house with a sweet older couple who feels like they were hit by "Hurricane Holidays" when everyone leaves. Needless to say, to save ourselves and our family some stress, we had to make some changes to that tradition.
The act of giving thanks can help your marriage and your family.