3. Our kids are more whole because we both contribute to the parenting. I have a few friends where they do all the parenting and their husbands do none. They are exhausted, tired and struggle to love their children at times. While I do not always agree with my husband's parenting style, I am thankful that he is in the picture and a willing participant. He can teach our children skills that I can't, like braving the steep hill to ride a bike or the difference between a flathead and Phillip's screwdriver. He is also showing them love in a way that I can duplicate or replace.
4. Sometimes, it is better to keep you mouth shut. At the end of the day, is it really important if my husband makes sure all the beds are made before the kids leave for school? Is is crucial for everyone to wear clothes that match? Is it vital for us to be on time everywhere we go? The answers to these questions is no. The "No Kill Policy": How To Control Anger As A Parent
When I find myself getting frustrated with my spouse, I ask about the bigger picture. I have a moment of thankfulness that he is active and participating in the lives of our children. In the big picture, our kids will remember the time that their dad was around, not all the little things that I wanted done perfectly.
5. We always come back to what we want to model for our children. A core belief that I have as a parent is to model what I want our children to see. My husband agrees with this as well. Children will do what they see and say what they hear. Above all else, I want them to know that they are loved by many. I also want them to know that love comes in many different ways and can be shown differently by each parent.
Is parenting easy? Nope, not a bit. Is co-parenting easy? Not really. Would I trade either for anything in the world? Of course not. At the end of the day, being a parent makes me a better person. Parenting with my husband makes me a better mother, communicator and wife. Both push me out of my comfort zone.