5 Tips To Cool Your Worries About Your Children

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5 Tips To Cool Your Worries About Your Children
In light of the Bumbo Baby Seat recall, I am reminded of how much we worry as parents.

When our first-born child, Stella was only 2 hours old, I said to my husband, "You better
have a darn good relationship with her for her entire life. You may be the only
connection we have to her in her teen years." He just looked at me like I was crazy. In
his defense, I probably was a little crazy. I had just gone through labor. That said, I
clarified my statement to him the next day and still stand by statement today. This is
how that conversation went:
Hubby: Are you aware that you lectured me about my relationship with our daughter
yesterday?
Me: Yep. I still feel that way.
Hubby: Help me understand.
Me: You see, girls are tough. They are emotional and passionate, curious and intense.
They are gentle and tough, sweet and bold. They are complicated. Eventually, they think they know more than their mothers. So, if they have a strong relationship with their fathers, they won’t stray too far and try to get their needs met by some teenager. Dad can be the mediator if needed.
Hubby: You got all of that in her first two hours of life?
I just smiled. This story had formed many years ago. The seed of what a daughter
needs was planted in my heart long before I became a mother. I am the oldest of 3 girls
and have also worked with hundreds of teenagers. While I was pregnant, I thought
about what I wanted our relationship with our child to be like. We didn’t know if we were
having a girl or a boy. Quite frankly, the thought of parenting scared the daylights out of
me. So, when that precious little bundle joined our world, I wanted to make sure the
three of us were on the same page.
This is just a little glimpse into how a parent might worry about her child. As I reflect on
that moment, I realize now that I was so worried about our daughter’s future 15 years
from that moment, that I was not 100% present, in the moment, with my husband and
our daughter. I later learned a great quote, “Fear causes us to worry about the future,
react from the past, and takes us out of the present.” I am not sure who stated that, but
it has been a mantra in my head over and over as I work with my husband to raise our
children.
I have enlisted a few parenting strategies that I use and I teach others to use in order to get through those moments of worry:

 
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