The Only Diet that Works – The Forgiveness Diet

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The Only Diet that Works – The Forgiveness Diet

It’s January and most people set about making resolutions. The most common resolution is to lose weight. Well I just finished reading two amazing books by Geneen Roth. Women, Food, and God and When Food is Love. I’ve also ordered her workbook Why Weight? and cannot wait to start revealing my thinner inner self, especially after eating ‘too many to count’ holiday cookies.
The main premise of Geneen’s books is that when we allow ourselves to feel our feelings and not use food as a way to numb ourselves from the pain of our childhoods; then we will naturally make healthier choices, stop eating compulsively, and revert to our ideal weight. There are many more revelations I experienced in the books and I highly recommend any woman with any kind of eating issue (which is most of us) to read them.
The main revelation the book brought to me was the reminder that part of releasing childhood trauma, pain, and/or dysfunctions is to forgive our parents (or any other adult from our childhood) for whatever actions they performed that felt damaging to us. Forgiveness does not make their actions acceptable, but it frees us from the mental prison we have ourselves locked up in, since we haven’t wanted to let go of our stories.
I recalled a powerful process I experienced when I attended a workshop held by spiritual leader Sondra Ray about six years ago. The Forgiveness Diet originated from one of my favorite spiritual texts - A Course In Miracles. The concept centers around writing statements of forgiveness every morning and every night for seven days to elicit healing in your heart toward those you feel have wronged you. As an added component, each day at the end of the day you forgive yourself.
A therapist of mine recently reminded me of the process, and shared that she was successfully able to forgive the man who beat her daughter.  Instead of being in jail, he lives with her daughter and they all have a pleasant, casual, and trusting relationship without animosity.  The power of forgiveness is incredible.
After that session with my therapist, I went home and performed the forgiveness diet myself.  I was able to forgive and release my mom for neglecting me as a child.  I gave up the need to have her call me and I to call her.  As a result, I only called her when I felt inspired to instead of feeling I had an obligation to call.  Nobody was keeping score except me.  It was such a feeling of freedom to not have to worry if she was going to get mad if I didn’t call her.
I also fretted endlessly, about my mom putting her husband and her job before me, to the degree that she did practice serious neglect of my sister and me.  Once I forgave her and realized that she had her own wounds to deal with from childhood, and I was willing to give up my story, I received the most amazing gift from her this Christmas. 

This article was originally published at Manifest Your Man . Reprinted with permission.
 
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