3. Diffuse the Emotions from the Memories of your past that no longer serve you – I found EFT® to be the fastest, most reliable way of diffusing the emotional triggers to my wounds from childhood. Gary Craig, the founder of EFT, states in the EFT Manual that all trauma lies in an energy meridian in the body somewhere, and clearing that channel will neutralize the emotion and eliminate the power it holds over you. Obviously there are many other modalities that can help you diffuse your emotional ‘hot spots’. Go back to number 1 and figure out which ones you want to try that feel right to you.
4. Create new Beliefs about your Childhood – Most of our childhood probably wasn’t as bad as we make it seem when we’re in our victim mentality. Once you’ve diffused the emotions and reached a place of forgiveness, it will be easier for you to begin remembering the parts of your childhood that were fun and good. It’s not our fault that we default to the negative; we heard the word “NO” 60 to 70,000 times a day as a child. Take your time, catch yourself when you start going toward negative thoughts of your childhood, and then choose to remember a positive childhood memory or experience. In time, you will have reprogrammed your thoughts about your childhood to be more positive than negative.
If you’re thinking that your childhood wasn’t so bad, dig a little deeper into your parents’ thoughts, beliefs, and values about relationships. Were they positive or negative? Do you desire to have a relationship exactly like your parent’s? If not, why not? I bet when you explore more deeply, you’ll realize that you were handed down some beliefs that you do not desire to recreate in your life. Remember, a belief is just a thought you choose to think over and over. Your beliefs originally came from your parents’ beliefs, but now as an adult you get to choose which ones you want to incorporate into your life, so remember to choose wisely!
Attracting the love of your life - who is a high quality individual, with his or her own issues he’s working through, yet who’s authentic, sincere, and willing to take responsibility for his life, is the ultimate base for an amazing relationship. Since you attract based on where you are currently in your emotional development, commit to doing the work required to become authentic, sincere and responsible first. That way, you can stop attracting men based on your unhealed childhood wounds and find someone who’s ready to grow to higher emotional states alongside you.
Remember to be easy about all of this, be kind to yourself along the way, and trust that you will be led to everything you need at the perfect time. The Universe has your back baby and wants you to be happy, as do I. In the words of Abraham-Hicks, “There is great love here for you.” Now go forth and be willing to do the work that will allow him in, help you to get unstuck, and create the life of your dreams with your man.